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To call my toddler a git?

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Sandsnake Sat 11-Feb-17 18:48:24

Lighthearted but I'm genuinely curious. PIL are staying and 15mo DS needed his nappy changed. DH took him upstairs, MIL followed to help and I said 'good luck! DS can be a bit of a git about having his nappy changed at the moment'. She was genuinely shocked, it was like I'd referred to him as a really bad swear word (she later referred to it as me calling him the 'g word'). This wasn't in front of DS as he was already upstairs.

I've just never seen 'git' as a particularly bad word. Is it? I genuinely want to know if I need to reign in my casual git calling... MIL is lovely but from quite a different background to me so maybe that's it.

harderandharder2breathe Sat 11-Feb-17 18:50:26

Said affectionately when he's not present yanbu

If you had shouted it in his face I could understand her pearl clutching. Otherwise she is overreacting

Twatternatter Sat 11-Feb-17 18:51:31

Different generations have different tolerances. Dont take it to heart

DorotheaHomeAlone Sat 11-Feb-17 18:51:38

She's being ridiculous. The 'g' word grin. If you hadn't already said it was got I'd be struggling to guess which word she could mean.

NattyBatty Sat 11-Feb-17 18:58:48

YANBU

To be fair, I've referred to my DS as a little shit on occasion. Usually when he's out of bed again at night and I just want him to go the fuck to sleep. It's never in his hearing, though. It's usually to my DH who knows I still love my DS, even if he is acting up.

Small children are selfish. It's part of how the human race has survived. Small children go through a phase of disliking anyone except their primary carer. Again, it's a survival mechanism. But that doesn't make it any less trying for the rest of us, or mean that we don't love them to bits. Your MIL needs to chill out.

RaindropDreams Sat 11-Feb-17 19:00:17

I think it's a generation thing. My mil hates it when I call mine a "little bugger" but it's said with affection and is a northern term whereas she is southern

Sandsnake Sat 11-Feb-17 19:01:45

Thanks! No, certainly not worrying over it - MIL's lovely so no dramas between us. Just wanting to make sure that git isn't some awful slur to to the majority of the population (well, MN) grin

sabzii Sat 11-Feb-17 19:06:31

TBH I'd cringe if I heard someone say it. Just seems a really unkind, vulgar way of referring to a toddler, like saying 'twat' or 'idiot'. Why not say something like 'rascal' or 'terror' or something softer?

Sandsnake Sat 11-Feb-17 19:16:02

See that's interesting Sabzi as to me it is a soft term, more like terror and certainly not along the lines of 'twat' or 'idiot'. I guess that's the problem with language, it can really different connotations for different people.

Crunchyside Sat 11-Feb-17 19:21:34

I think when said in an affectionate way it's absolutely fine - e.g. if my toddler did something cheeky like steal a biscuit and run off laughing, it's the sort of thing I'd say to DH "He's such a little git!" in a bemused tone.

maras2 Sat 11-Feb-17 19:27:36

Old gimmer here.
I never refer to my DGC or anyonelse's kids other than 'Little monkey' or 'Little so and so'
You live and learn. grin

Lostpangolin Sat 11-Feb-17 19:38:21

Git is very much an affectionate term here

SuperBeagle Sat 11-Feb-17 19:40:44

I called mine "total shit bags" when talking to my cousin the other day. Because that's how they were behaving. Of course, I don't call them such things to their face or anything, but that sort of lighthearted talk is normal in my family.

originalbiglymavis Sat 11-Feb-17 19:40:57

I'm sure I've heard it in the House of Commons. My grandfather was generally referred to affectionately as 'the miserable auld git'. I call DS a git quite a lot!

EpoxyResin Sat 11-Feb-17 19:42:04

"Shitbag" is our family's affectionate, modern adaptation of the term "scamp".

originalbiglymavis Sat 11-Feb-17 19:43:01

You don't want to be around here when we've been watching Father Ted then!

TheresABluebirdOnMyShoulder Sat 11-Feb-17 19:43:14

I think it must be a regional thing by the responses here. To me, it's not at all offensive and is usually used in an affectionate manner ("cheeky git" etc). I certainly wouldn't liken it to twat! I would be genuinely aghast if anybody referred to their child that way. So I guess if some people think that git and twat are the same, I can understand the shock that your MIL felt.

Topseyt Sat 11-Feb-17 19:43:22

I think it is fine, though I doubt my parents' generation would have.

EpoxyResin Sat 11-Feb-17 19:43:29

Someone else uses shit bag! I thought it was just us grin

HelenaGWells Sat 11-Feb-17 19:46:04

I would say git or sod in this way.

LostMyDotBrain Sat 11-Feb-17 19:49:00

I do grin at the expectation that we should always be lovely when we talk about children. As PP said above, children are really selfish by nature. It's hard to be around them long term and still be a saint. My toddler can be an arsehole. She just can be. I don't tell her that obviously but that doesn't make it less true.

I don't think there's a particularly nasty background behind the word 'git' that would put it off limits despite my low standards grin

SuperBeagle Sat 11-Feb-17 19:52:14

Epoxy "Git" just doesn't quite hit the mark sometimes. grin

Finola1step Sat 11-Feb-17 19:57:47

I wouldn't use git because where I am from, it is similar to bastard. Not in the illegitimate sense but in a cheeky bastard sense. Harsher than cheeky monkey.

StinkyMcgrinky Sat 11-Feb-17 19:58:48

I definitely wouldn't see git as an offensive term. I call my two buggerlugs all the time and my MIL hates it. My 7 month old hasn't slept for more than 3hrs at a time since birth, I like to cheerily sing "he's a chubby little shitbag" at him around 3am when he decides its playtime. MIL definitely wouldn't like that wink

ScoobyDoosTinklyLaugh Sat 11-Feb-17 20:03:06

I say shitehawk and tiny bugger.

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