To be this desperate? Or do I need a reality check?

[wellwouldyou]

This is so outing, but what the hell, I've namechanged. I'm 36. I've yet to have a relationship with either the opposite sex or mine, and I'm fast approaching 'fuck it, I've given up' territory.

Someone's just shared an ad on faceache for a programme for people like me and asking for applicants.

Should I try it, thinking it can't make life much worse ... or can it?

Any thoughts?

[Waltermittythesequel]

A programme?

Do you mean for Virgins? Or are you asexual?

Sorry, I don't understand!

[wellwouldyou]

It's for people who haven't been in relationships, Walter. I'm not asexual, just ugly.

[Gallavich]

a TV programme? I'm not sure how that will help.

[Waltermittythesequel]

I'm sure you're not!!!

But...So these people are going to take money off you? For what? I just would be careful not to get sucked in something that's probably bullshit!

Have you tried online dating??

[wellwouldyou]

Walter, seriously, are you on the right thread? Of course I've tried online dating!

[ReturnoftheWhack]

Aggghh, Well, that hurt my heart to read your second post - such a cutting opinion of yourself. What have you tried in the past to find a partner? Are you attracted to men or women? Or both?

[Lilaclily]

No I wouldn't

Do you want to meet anyone? Have you tried online dating?

[VestalVirgin]

What kind of programme?

I strongly suspect it might be a reality TV show, in which case, unless you also have no job and they pay handsomely, don't do it.

[Lilaclily]

Goodness you're coming across a bit aggressive

[wellwouldyou]

I think I'm attracted to men, but I haven't been attracted to anybody for ages. A lot of people are convinced I'm a closet lesbian, I think. Yes, I've tried online dating, seriously, it doesn't work.

[wellwouldyou]

Was I Lilac? Sorry, unintentional! Probably fast typing :) Huge apologies

[paddypants13]

Is it about building your confidence up and teaching you how to approach people?

If it is I think you should go for it.

[Waltermittythesequel]

But what is it, OP?

[Slimmingsnake]

No don't do it.you are no ones entertainment

[Buzzardbird]

Is it a television programme you are talking about? Like the Undateables sort of thing?

[barinatxe]

Only you can decide. You might feel like you've got nothing to lose, but is that really true? Being on TV probably will get you a date or two - but are they likely to be the sort of person you event want to date? There are massive downsides to being recognised in the street, especially when it's because you "starred" in a reality programme about people who have reached their mid-30s having never found a relationship.

Before you commit, do some research into the type of programme it is, and above all keep in mind all the potential negatives - the shame, the abuse, the misrepresentation of you.

[VestalVirgin]

I think I'm attracted to men, but I haven't been attracted to anybody for ages. A lot of people are convinced I'm a closet lesbian, I think. Yes, I've tried online dating, seriously, it doesn't work.

In which way does it not work?

For me it doesn't work because I am choosy and while it is easier to get to talk to people than in real life, the men there still don't meet my standards.

So, do you never get dates, do you only get one date and the guy never calls again, or what?

[puglife15]

Anyone remember that programme Would Like To Meet? I loved that and felt on the whole it bettered the lives of the people on it.

But that was pre the ubiquity of social media and I'd be worried about nasty personal comments from knob head viewers affecting your self esteem.

So I'd think very carefully.

[puglife15]

Why not apply, find out more, they might decide you're not right for it and you can always pull out at any stage if you're not keen.

[whippetwoman]

No-one is ugly! Everyone has something that is beautiful about them. Don't think of yourself as ugly, think about your good points because I bet you have loads of them!

[Rainydayspending]

I'd steer clear. If men YOU've chosen fall short then i doubt it would be better with fame hungry people.

[Emmageddon]

I don't think you should do it. Work on your self-esteem instead, why do you say you're ugly? Is it something that has been said about you? Or are you just not conventionally pretty?

The programme Undateables makes me feel uneasy, using people with learning difficulties as entertainment fodder.

[dailyshite]

Do you genuinely not realise that your reply to Walter was aggressive?

Would you normally talk to people like that?

Both genuine questions and not intended as a criticism.

[WooWooSister]

Do you mean a TV programme? Or a programme as in a course?
If the former then I think you need to want to be on TV as much or more than you want a relationship. If your only motivation is to find a relationship then I'm not sure a TV programme is the automatic step to take. However, if you like the idea of being on TV and want a relationship, then apply after researching the company and the format

[LexieLulu]

I believe there is someone out there for everyone. I'm sure you're not ugly, there is someone who fancies you.

What online dating did you try. Please don't give up