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Husband and weight loss.

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LovelyBath77 Fri 10-Feb-17 15:37:00

I'm on a low carb diet. It is helping. However DH fails to understand it and keeps telling me I just need to at less.

So, I emailed his this video which explains why that is not the case. He relied, What's your point? So I told him, that it's not just about eating less. If he's not interested don't bother watching but stop telling me to eat less.

AIBU to feel cross about this?

luckylucky24 Fri 10-Feb-17 15:39:55

Sounds like he is trying to be helpful but I can see why it would be annoying.

shaggedthruahedgebackwards Fri 10-Feb-17 15:41:23

It's hard to judge who IBU without knowing a bit more history

If you have become a complete low-carb bore then YABU

If he is trying to sabotage your diet then he IBU

LovelyBath77 Fri 10-Feb-17 15:44:15

Think he was just cross I emailed him at work. He's asking why I'm bothering and making him feel bad while at work (sigh) I was just fed up cos I'm not being a bore, just when he sees me eating he tells me, all you need to do is eat less and it's wrong- that doesn't work. So I was just trying to explain it and that video is really helpful. He probably just is busy and finding it annoying. Not very supportive though. I won't mention it again i think.

BakeOffBiscuits Fri 10-Feb-17 15:46:15

Well, I think you are both being unreasonable.

He should support whichever way you choose to lose weight, but you can't make him 'understand' low carbing, because not every one agrees with it.

I have personally done low carbing, but whilst I lost weight I put it all back on again, because I realised I wanted to eat bread, pasta and bananas and they can be part of a healthy diet. I have since lost weight and kept it off, by eating almost what ever I like, but I eat healthily and I eat less of it and I know i will keep this weight off because if i want a crumpet, i will have one!

Sirzy Fri 10-Feb-17 15:46:27

Why email it to him at work though rather than sitting down at home and suggesting he watches it if he wants to understand your logic? Z

BakeOffBiscuits Fri 10-Feb-17 15:49:16

Sorry Xposted.

Yes it is probably best if you don't email him videos at work about your dietgrin

If he says 'it's not correct to eat like that' again, just say 'I know there are different ways to lose weight, I want to try this one So shut up'

Good luck with it!

Juveniledelinquent Fri 10-Feb-17 15:51:03

Just say yes and ignore what he's saying. DH's say all sorts of rubbish, best to ignore most of it lol grin

LovelyBath77 Fri 10-Feb-17 15:54:45

Yes might have been an idea to show him it later. It's an INSET day here and he was grumpy about working anyway and jealous we're off so not the best timing. I know he's going to come home and be grumpy now and moan about it being a mess etc and that we've been on the computer on youtube while he's been working etc etc. Oh well lesson lead I guess. Maybe he'll shut up about the diet then.

barinatxe Fri 10-Feb-17 15:54:50

It depends on your situation. If you are wolfing down 4,000 calories a day then "eating less" would be a good place to start if you want to lose weight.

If you are on a diet of 1,500 calories a day, "eating less" would be ill-advised.

The best thing for losing weight is a sensible, balanced diet. "Low-carb" or "no-carb" or whatever may work to a point, but a carb-free 5,000 calories a day is not going to work as well as 2,000 calories of fresh, unprocessed, low fat, low sugar food.

It's not really possible to say for sure that your husband is being unreasonable. Perhaps he is, perhaps you are, perhaps both of you and perhaps neither.

Niloufes Fri 10-Feb-17 16:13:08

He is kind of right, eating less does work. But what you really have to do is change your diet to eat the "right" things and then you can eat as much of the right things as you like. A low carb diet won't do it all. I suspect he's just bored of the conversation tbh.

SittingWithMyFeetUP12 Fri 10-Feb-17 16:19:05

I'm sorry but I speak from years of experience, husbands are by their very nature annoying, ignore him, as much as you are able, as they also tend to go on about things...a lot.

TheMythOfFingerprints Fri 10-Feb-17 16:21:23

He's making you feel bad at home though...

ScarlettFreestone Fri 10-Feb-17 16:23:41

You emailed your DH a video about weight loss to his work? shock

And you don't know why he's annoyed?


LovelyBath77 Fri 10-Feb-17 16:33:11

It's his personal email, he's self employed.

PickAChew Fri 10-Feb-17 16:36:12

Agreeing with shagged.

DH and I are both losing weight just fine just by eating a bit less.

NarkyMcDinkyChops Fri 10-Feb-17 16:40:17

You do know that diet dr video is just another opinion? It's not a fact, you're not countering his opinions with facts, just with different opinions.
You should eat whatever you like, and tell him to mind his own, but don't pretend you have some kind of better idea about what is best than he does.

ofshoes Fri 10-Feb-17 16:42:14

He's not wrong though, reducing overall calorie intake is usually more sensible than any faddy diet.

oldlaundbooth Fri 10-Feb-17 16:42:44

You'd be better off on the low carb boards on here OP, we love chattinggrin

ScarlettFreestone Fri 10-Feb-17 16:46:35

Ah, that's not so bad then.

VeganCow Fri 10-Feb-17 16:49:47

He is right. Weight loss = calories used higher than calorie intake. A calorie is a calorie. You can eat 6 big slices of bread a day filled with mashed potato and lose weight.

Serialweightwatcher Fri 10-Feb-17 16:53:25

Just explain it when he gets home or when it's mentioned again and if he doesn't understand it, tell him to keep his nose out of your diet

NotStoppedAllDay Fri 10-Feb-17 16:58:30

Yes he's right

And I myself lost 5 stone through low carbing. Portion control is still going to be an influence with weight loss!!'

specialsubject Fri 10-Feb-17 17:32:09

CBA to watch a babbly video, but diet doctor talks about cutting back on sugar, sweets, cakes, sugary fruits. Does also recommend less starchy stuff, as carbs have four calories a gram.

I.e. eat fewer calories to lose weight.

And in other news, bears excrete in the woods...

WorraLiberty Fri 10-Feb-17 17:42:03

I think your DH is spot on about eating less.

Otherwise anyone who went on a low carb diet, would only ever have to do it once in their life.

However, for many people that really doesn't seem to be the case and once they stop, and go back to their old way of eating the weight piles back on.

Learning to eat less and exercise more is a lifestyle change - low carb diets (for most people) are not.

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