I know I'm likely to be flamed for this because I'm either being entirely unreasonable, too traditional or just straight up tight.
My DP and I have just booked our wedding venue and are planning to forgo a lot of modern wedding traditions to keep costs down (no save the dates, no wedding cars, not a 3 course dinner, small centrepieces etc) as we'd rather save money for our marriage. I cannot justify spending thousands of pounds on a reception that we would have to really cut back to save for, when really, the only part important to us, and I had hoped our guests, was the ceremony. For the record, there will be food, but it'll be a hog roast or similar and some sides.
That is not to say that I don't completely understand couples who do spend a lot of money. Weddings and committing to one another is exciting and beautiful and I can see why you would want to go all out to make it as memorable as possible. If you're only going to do it once, why not go all out? This post isn't about attacking those people AT ALL.
I've had a few comments from people implying we're being stingy and such for not offering our planned small amount of guests a large 3 course affair, money behind the bar and extensive entertainment. For the record we have also specified that we want no one to feel obligated to get us a gift, it would feel unreasonable to me to save all this money ourselves but still expect our guests to splash out on gifts.
So in summary, is it unreasonable of me to want people to feel excited about us getting married and what that means, rather than for a lavish reception?
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To expect people to celebrate my marriage, not my wedding?
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SomewhereInbetween1 · 09/02/2017 10:36
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