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AIBU not wanting to give out party bags?

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surreynotsurrey · 08/02/2017 22:44

Wait, you've been invited to a party, fed, watered, entertained, not had to tidy up or pay for anything AND you expect a party bag?!

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PurpleDaisies · 08/02/2017 22:45

It's fine not to want to give them but it's very hard to get people to leave otherwise!

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gamerchick · 08/02/2017 22:45

Yep

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Only1scoop · 08/02/2017 22:45

I don't but my 6yo finds them quite interesting.

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Lukeandlorelai4Ever · 08/02/2017 22:45

How do you get the kids to leave Shock

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Astro55 · 08/02/2017 22:46

I don't do them either - not environmentally friendly!

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Heratnumber7 · 08/02/2017 22:48

When I stopped doing party bags, all the other parents stopped too #trailblazer Grin

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Justmuddlingalong · 08/02/2017 22:48

Open the door. "Out"! Job's a good un. Wink

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QuodPeriitPeriit · 08/02/2017 22:49

Like PPs, they are a useful signal that it is time to leave. Smile

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hellomarshmallow · 08/02/2017 22:52

It's a lovely tradition. My DCs are always delighted with party bag tat and a few sweets. Keeps them happy in the car when they're overtired after the party.

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WorraLiberty · 08/02/2017 22:52

Errrm you sound like a wonderfully welcoming host - full of joy Grin

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bumsexatthebingo · 08/02/2017 22:55

My sil was telling me the other day that she took her little boy to his bf's party. She doesn't drive and by the time she had paid cab fares, entry to the venue and food for her other 2 children who she had no childcare for and a present she had spent near £100 just so her child could attend the party! So YANBU but saying they've paid for nothing is a bit misleading. Attendees have to get there and most, if not all, will bring a present even if they are the only expenses.
And yy to party bags being a cue that it's time to go.

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GoosevonMoose · 08/02/2017 22:56

Lately we've gotten books/activity books/puzzles.

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SoupDragon · 08/02/2017 22:57

Think of them as "now fuck off home" bags and your perception will change.

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PolarBearGoingSomewhere · 08/02/2017 23:03

My DD2 wanted to give out a Kinder Egg to each guest. Her little face when she saw 20 Kinder Eggs in the tesco delivery Grin my eldest did thosee sweet cone things - ordered the bits off eBay and had a fun hour making them up - both options cost about 80p per child.

I think it's nice to give a little token as a thank you. Although calling them "fuck off bags " did make me laugh and sums up the real purpose of them!!

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PippaFawcett · 08/02/2017 23:08

We only give sweets these days, as I can't stand tat.

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KC225 · 08/02/2017 23:11

My kids and their friends just love them. LOVE them. To the point her favourite thing at Christmas was the GIANT party bag (stocking).

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ElphabaTheGreen · 08/02/2017 23:12

DS1 didn't get a party bag from the party he went to at the weekend.

The whinging in the car on the way home as a result nearly got me in the phone to the hosting parents, bellowing, 'YOU FUCKING STARTED THIS, YOU CAN DEAL WITH IT!'

Please, for the sake of the other parents, just give the bastard bags.

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MsVestibule · 08/02/2017 23:13

I've stopped doing them now (my DCs are 8 & 10) but did do them for years. They cost about £1 each - the kids don't care what's in them, it's just exciting, even if they are full of tat!!

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Allthewaves · 08/02/2017 23:17

My kids adore party bags - they keep them for weeks on a shelf in the kitchen. They love the plastic tat and sweets. We use recycled paper bags to try and be a bit more eco friendly. I put in pencils, rubbers ect things that kids can take to school and use - get loads of cheap bit off ebay.

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Astro55 · 08/02/2017 23:17

The whinging in the car on the way home as a result nearly got me in the phone to the hosting parents, bellowing, 'YOU FUCKING STARTED THIS, YOU CAN DEAL WITH IT!'

How very ungrateful.., think you're kids need to learn some manners

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kel1234 · 08/02/2017 23:18

I wouldn't not give a party bag tbh

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Allthewaves · 08/02/2017 23:18

DS1 didn't get a party bag from the party he went to at the weekend.

The whinging in the car on the way home as a result nearly got me in the phone to the hosting parents, bellowing, 'YOU FUCKING STARTED THIS, YOU CAN DEAL WITH IT!'


that would be my kids

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user1484394242 · 08/02/2017 23:20

We went to a party where the host brought put a box of books and the kids took one each. I thought it was brilliant. They were books from a big set so £1 or less each

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Californiasoul · 08/02/2017 23:23

Don't give them a party bag then. It's not The Law.

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Swirlingasong · 08/02/2017 23:37

I secretly love doing party bags.

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