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AIBU not wanting to give out party bags?

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surreynotsurrey Wed 08-Feb-17 22:44:20

Wait, you've been invited to a party, fed, watered, entertained, not had to tidy up or pay for anything AND you expect a party bag?!

PurpleDaisies Wed 08-Feb-17 22:45:15

It's fine not to want to give them but it's very hard to get people to leave otherwise!

gamerchick Wed 08-Feb-17 22:45:32

Yep

Only1scoop Wed 08-Feb-17 22:45:39

I don't but my 6yo finds them quite interesting.

Lukeandlorelai4Ever Wed 08-Feb-17 22:45:56

How do you get the kids to leave shock

Astro55 Wed 08-Feb-17 22:46:52

I don't do them either - not environmentally friendly!

Heratnumber7 Wed 08-Feb-17 22:48:00

When I stopped doing party bags, all the other parents stopped too #trailblazer grin

Justmuddlingalong Wed 08-Feb-17 22:48:12

Open the door. "Out"! Job's a good un. wink

QuodPeriitPeriit Wed 08-Feb-17 22:49:20

Like PPs, they are a useful signal that it is time to leave. smile

hellomarshmallow Wed 08-Feb-17 22:52:06

It's a lovely tradition. My DCs are always delighted with party bag tat and a few sweets. Keeps them happy in the car when they're overtired after the party.

WorraLiberty Wed 08-Feb-17 22:52:36

Errrm you sound like a wonderfully welcoming host - full of joy grin

bumsexatthebingo Wed 08-Feb-17 22:55:11

My sil was telling me the other day that she took her little boy to his bf's party. She doesn't drive and by the time she had paid cab fares, entry to the venue and food for her other 2 children who she had no childcare for and a present she had spent near £100 just so her child could attend the party! So YANBU but saying they've paid for nothing is a bit misleading. Attendees have to get there and most, if not all, will bring a present even if they are the only expenses.
And yy to party bags being a cue that it's time to go.

GoosevonMoose Wed 08-Feb-17 22:56:41

Lately we've gotten books/activity books/puzzles.

SoupDragon Wed 08-Feb-17 22:57:18

Think of them as "now fuck off home" bags and your perception will change.

PolarBearGoingSomewhere Wed 08-Feb-17 23:03:14

My DD2 wanted to give out a Kinder Egg to each guest. Her little face when she saw 20 Kinder Eggs in the tesco delivery grin my eldest did thosee sweet cone things - ordered the bits off eBay and had a fun hour making them up - both options cost about 80p per child.

I think it's nice to give a little token as a thank you. Although calling them "fuck off bags " did make me laugh and sums up the real purpose of them!!

PippaFawcett Wed 08-Feb-17 23:08:11

We only give sweets these days, as I can't stand tat.

KC225 Wed 08-Feb-17 23:11:56

My kids and their friends just love them. LOVE them. To the point her favourite thing at Christmas was the GIANT party bag (stocking).

ElphabaTheGreen Wed 08-Feb-17 23:12:33

DS1 didn't get a party bag from the party he went to at the weekend.

The whinging in the car on the way home as a result nearly got me in the phone to the hosting parents, bellowing, 'YOU FUCKING STARTED THIS, YOU CAN DEAL WITH IT!'

Please, for the sake of the other parents, just give the bastard bags.

MsVestibule Wed 08-Feb-17 23:13:20

I've stopped doing them now (my DCs are 8 & 10) but did do them for years. They cost about £1 each - the kids don't care what's in them, it's just exciting, even if they are full of tat!!

Allthewaves Wed 08-Feb-17 23:17:09

My kids adore party bags - they keep them for weeks on a shelf in the kitchen. They love the plastic tat and sweets. We use recycled paper bags to try and be a bit more eco friendly. I put in pencils, rubbers ect things that kids can take to school and use - get loads of cheap bit off ebay.

Astro55 Wed 08-Feb-17 23:17:14

The whinging in the car on the way home as a result nearly got me in the phone to the hosting parents, bellowing, 'YOU FUCKING STARTED THIS, YOU CAN DEAL WITH IT!'

How very ungrateful.., think you're kids need to learn some manners

kel1234 Wed 08-Feb-17 23:18:09

I wouldn't not give a party bag tbh

Allthewaves Wed 08-Feb-17 23:18:18

*DS1 didn't get a party bag from the party he went to at the weekend.

The whinging in the car on the way home as a result nearly got me in the phone to the hosting parents, bellowing, 'YOU FUCKING STARTED THIS, YOU CAN DEAL WITH IT!'*

that would be my kids

user1484394242 Wed 08-Feb-17 23:20:10

We went to a party where the host brought put a box of books and the kids took one each. I thought it was brilliant. They were books from a big set so £1 or less each

Californiasoul Wed 08-Feb-17 23:23:42

Don't give them a party bag then. It's not The Law.

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