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AIBU?

WWYD, AIBU to even consider this, away for DC for 4 weeks

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MsJamieFraser · 08/02/2017 20:37

Our DS1 has multiple life threatening allergies, and because of this no child care provider will take him due to the extent and type of his allergies.

MIL and FIL looks after them after school and at school he has an extensive care plan drawn up. He needs meds to attend school and sometimes during school.

Because of the above childcare is difficult enough and my wonderful inlaws are fab, as is his teachers.

Now In laws are moving abroad this year, and because we both work full time, we dont have enough childcare to cover school holiday and medical appointments, which are a aplenty etc...

so in laws have asked if the boys could come to them for the whole of the 6 weeks, and we will join them for 10 days annual leave at the end of the summer holidays to bring them home. (other family members will be their also during their stay).

Are we daft to even consider this (MIL is an extensive medical background)

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RedLemonade · 08/02/2017 20:38

Not daft necessarily. It sounds like a tough situation.

How old are the boys?

Lilaclily · 08/02/2017 20:39

I think if they're school age and happy with that then it's fine

Why are inlaws moving away ?

It's a bit sad when they're such a help

Lapinlapin · 08/02/2017 20:42

Yanbu

It must be hard to be away from them for 4 weeks, but it's not as though your in-laws don't have experience of dealing with the medical issues. They must know your dc really well, and it sounds as though they are in fact the best people to look after them, after you.

DeanTavalouris · 08/02/2017 20:42

How old are they? I went to Germany for several weeks to stay with my pen friend a few summers running around the age of 11. I missed my parents but I had a great time. Would you be able to get travel insurance for your son though?

altiara · 08/02/2017 20:43

I'd say yes to that! I'd ask the boys if they want to, you don't say their ages, but I know my DCs would love time away from us. Not sure if they'd like a whole month away but I think they would especially if they saw other family members as well.

MsJamieFraser · 08/02/2017 20:43

They are emigrating, (well trying it out for a year and if they like it will be staying longer) we are really please for them, as they have been wanting to do it for years but never took the plunge and now they are, logistically its a night mare for us, but as parents thats our issue to deal with.

Boys are 11 and 7

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WhooooAmI24601 · 08/02/2017 20:45

I grew up spending my summer holidays with my Grandparents in France from 11 onwards. I'd get on a flight at East Midlands and they'd collect me the other end at CDG. It's hard I'm sure as a parent but I have nothing but the very best memories of my summers there.

Your IL"s sound as they have a great rapport and understanding of your DCs. If you trust them, and clearly you do, it sounds like a sensible option.

Allthewaves · 08/02/2017 20:46

it's exceptional situation. Your going to miss them terribly but you don't really have much choice. Is there good medical care where pil will be living?

OneOrgasmicBirthPlease · 08/02/2017 20:46

At this age, I would have loved a holiday with loving, supportive grandparents and I was the clingiest of children. It's true, it is a long time to be away from them, but an excellent idea in the circumstances.

MsJamieFraser · 08/02/2017 20:47

Insurance will be costing us a small fortune, hes quite a easy kids to look after, you just need to be really aware of the environment hes in and also his diet. (which MIL is ace at, tbh the county he is going to he will be less at risk)

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Butterymuffin · 08/02/2017 20:48

I would do it. You'll miss them terribly, of course, but your ILs have been caring for them regularly for some time, know the scorewith the allergies, and - if they stay abroad - the boys will have been able to have wonderful quality time with their grandparents before they lose that day to day contact with them.

Dragongirl10 · 08/02/2017 20:49

Although it will be hard for you and they will miss you, it sounds like the safest and best option by far, you obviously trust PIL and they seem equipped to deal with the medical issues....and your Dss will spend lots of time with their GPs

SorrelSoup · 08/02/2017 20:53

I think that's a great offer! Is it in Europe? Could you do a couple of weekends too? I'd miss them like crazy, but they'll be able to look after themselves during summers soon. A great opportunity for them and it will be a great childhood memory.

SorrelSoup · 08/02/2017 20:54

Well not that soon; I thought you said 11 and 17!!!!

MsJamieFraser · 08/02/2017 20:55

I have just realised I have said it was ds1 its not its ds2 with the allergies

Fantastic hospital near by, inlaws know others in the area who emigrated also, and MIL when she goes over get a full health check every year when she is over.

I will miss them shamefully, I have spoken to the boys and ds1 cant wait and wants to live with his Nan and Granddad forever ds want to go, but at 7 hes a bit unsure what wants to go.

me and dh just dont know what to do for the best, which we know what the nest option is, but still we dont know if we can be away form them for a whole month.

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MsJamieFraser · 08/02/2017 20:57

excuse the posts, ds1 just come in from footy and is manky, so Im shouting at him to have a shower before bed.

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