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Ainu? Dh texted he was in intensive care as a joke! Annoyed

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flopseyR72 Wed 08-Feb-17 18:46:36

To cut a long story short. Dh is complaining I don't do enough us time. I have gone back almost full time to work with 18 month old. I do nursery run, pick up work all child care apart from some play and all house work. I am knackered! I don't want to leave dd when not at work as miss her too much and think 3 days in nursery is enough. Dp is always grumpy frequently spends all night on line. Tonight he texted he was in intensive care. When I called he said he had a heart atttack. Then he laughed and said what did I care. Feel really upset. He is 54 with high cholesterol. This is really immature and horrid no? Trying to make me feel guilty.

picklemepopcorn Wed 08-Feb-17 18:48:07

What a piggish thing to do. He needs a good long think. Let him do all the drop offs and collections and housework on the days you work. SW how much time he has then.

InfinityPlusOne Wed 08-Feb-17 18:48:11

No you aren't being unreasonable, that's a pathetic way of trying to get your attention.

ChasedByBees Wed 08-Feb-17 18:48:48

What on earth did he think he was doing? Why would he do that? confused

fc301 Wed 08-Feb-17 18:49:14

Jeez what a cunt. YANBU.

Gazelda Wed 08-Feb-17 18:49:56

He sounds like a sulky teen. I'd be raging at the intensive care message.

GeekyWombat Wed 08-Feb-17 18:50:11

Do you think he was drunk?

Colossal cunt.

Does he know the story of the boy who cried wolf?

Tell him if he makes a habit of 'jokes' like this, he runs the risk of you not believing him if he actually were to be in hospital, seriously ill.

wonderingsoul Wed 08-Feb-17 18:50:58

It was a vile joke to play and not funny at all.

But to give him the benifit of the doubt could he be feeling less connected and is at the end of hea teather? And he stupidly chose to text you that of frustration?

Im not saying hes right to feel like that at all. But would he be open to a chat to see how you can both help and change things to feel more like a couple?

Ericaequites Wed 08-Feb-17 18:52:28

That is extremely puerile. Spending all night online is a worrisome sign. He may be flirting with other women, reading porn, or just wasting time when he should be in bed. If he is up, he should have to soothe DD when she wakes in the night.

HolesinTheSoles Wed 08-Feb-17 18:52:31

YANBU bloody hell what a horrible thing to do! Do you get time all together as a family and he wants more time just you and him? Not quite sure what he expected when he has a young child!

flopseyR72 Wed 08-Feb-17 18:53:42

Just getting fed up with him blaming me for everything. He still acts like because I was the one pushing for a baby I have to do everything he wants and take responsibility for baby. I love his company but fantasise my life would be easier just me and dd.

flopseyR72 Wed 08-Feb-17 18:54:59

He wasn't drunk as has to drive home after work.

Thattimeofyearagain Wed 08-Feb-17 19:00:27

He's an abusive twat. That was a vile thing to do and by the sound of it he bring nothing to the table. I couldn't put up with shite like that.

waterrat Wed 08-Feb-17 19:01:08

Why do you do all the housework?

honeylulu Wed 08-Feb-17 19:05:06

Why doesn't he share the housework in the evening and then you'd both have more free time (to spend together, or not)?
When he moans about not enough "us time", does he mean sex?

yorkshapudding Wed 08-Feb-17 19:05:54

He sounds like a Twat. Let's review the evidence shall we?

- He doesn't do his share around the house
- He doesn't do his share with the baby
- Despite not doing his share, and therefore creating more work for you, he thinks it's your fault that you don't have enough time together.
- When you do have time together he's busy fannying about online
- Pretending to be in intensive care is his idea of a hilarious joke.

Yup, massive twat.

tinglyfing Wed 08-Feb-17 19:11:55

He did WHAT??????!!!!!!!!!!!

How utterly disgusting.

flopseyR72 Wed 08-Feb-17 19:12:48

Not much sex. Once a month. This is a bit worrying. Feel like he has gone of it.

Floggingmolly Wed 08-Feb-17 19:13:40

I'd have put DH in intensive care if he'd done this. Is this kind of "humour" normal for him?

GallivantingWildebeest Wed 08-Feb-17 19:15:37

So he wasn't in hospital? And you said he's 54? He sounds 14. What a dick move. Why would you want to spend time with an unsupportive twat like them?

EweAreHere Wed 08-Feb-17 19:16:20

* I have gone back almost full time to work with 18 month old. I do nursery run, pick up work all child care apart from some play and all house work. I am knackered!*

Um, what does DH do?

Since he doesn't have to deliver or pick up from nursery.

He doesn't do any child care.

He doesn't do house work.

You also have an almost full time paid job.

How come your job is 24/7 it seems and he just works?

You might as well be single from where I'm sitting.

fc301 Wed 08-Feb-17 19:17:17

/\ /\ /\
What yorkshapudding said. 1000%

ChuckSnowballs Wed 08-Feb-17 19:17:24

I love his company but fantasise my life would be easier just me and dd.

Well, why not make the fantasy a reality? Tell him tonight and see what happens.

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