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To be a tiny bit pissed off they stole my only bit of me time

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Babyiwantabump Tue 07-Feb-17 13:21:45

Eldest in play group .

Youngest was napping.

Finally sat my bum on the sofa with a hot cup of tea and a bit of the Netflix.

PIL turn up angry
No phone call before - I explain that eldest at playgroup youngest asleep upstairs it's just me . They still come in . Then I have to run around making them drinks and focusing on them!

They ruined my me time!!

AIBU?

AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered Tue 07-Feb-17 13:23:33

Ooh YANBU, that's terrible! You poor thing. Get CCTV and ignore the door next time!

livingthegoodlife Tue 07-Feb-17 13:24:19

Yanbu!!! Me time sacrosanct. Couldn't you have pretended you needed to take a call or something and not let them in?!!

PragmaticWench Tue 07-Feb-17 13:26:01

Your only option is cctv above the front door and a refusal to answer the door if they do it again.

SquedgieBeckenheim Tue 07-Feb-17 13:26:35

This is why I wouldn't answer the door if not expecting anyone. Unannounced visitors are so rude!

Babyiwantabump Tue 07-Feb-17 13:27:04

I actually said to them that I was just having five minutes to myself as youngest was napping and eldest at playgroup .

They then said Oh well we can come and keep you company then.

Like they were doing me a favour .angry

I made several large hints that they were to fuck off but it didn't work . They stayed until the baby woke and I got the eldest from playgroup.

MagicMojito Tue 07-Feb-17 13:27:04

I'd be pissed off too. Its rude for anyone to turn up unannounced and uninvited angry

(Apart from emergencies)

Babyiwantabump Tue 07-Feb-17 13:28:34

It is rude isn't it! I would never turn up unannounced to them!

I don't know why they feel they can do it to me 🤔

picklemepopcorn Tue 07-Feb-17 13:28:57

Oh good, can you sit with the DC, while I nip to the shops? You couldn't have come at a better time.

Oh I'm just doing my ironing, tell you what, you take over while I make the tea.

LaurieMarlow Tue 07-Feb-17 13:29:12

This would give me the absolute rage. YANBU.

magicstar1 Tue 07-Feb-17 13:30:48

I wouldn't have opened the door...sometimes you need time on your own.

MotherOfHallions Tue 07-Feb-17 13:31:07

I'm raging for you!

Babyiwantabump Tue 07-Feb-17 13:31:13

The thing is - this is very new . They are only recently even bothering with my DC so I feel like I can't complain but on the other hand they could have fecking rang first!

Thephoneywar Tue 07-Feb-17 13:31:34

Instead of dropping 'large' hints and beating around the bush, be friendly but direct.

NapQueen Tue 07-Feb-17 13:31:39

I don't answer the door if dd is at school and ds is napping. Unless it's someone who has been in touch about popping in.

GplanAddict Tue 07-Feb-17 13:31:45

YADNBU

theothersideoftheworld Tue 07-Feb-17 13:33:32

My 4 year old is st school, my 2 year old is napping. I'm not answering to door if anyone comes round!

Areasonablegal Tue 07-Feb-17 13:35:15

Cheeky sods! Dont answer door next time and if you can unplug the doorbell do it!

Eminado Tue 07-Feb-17 13:36:06

*Today 13:31 NapQueen

I don't answer the door if dd is at school and ds is napping. Unless it's someone who has been in touch about popping in.*

Me either.
Except I have 2 dds.
I'd rather miss a parcel than have that time interrupted. Sorry if that is rude but I've got to do what I can to cope.

Getnakedorgohome Tue 07-Feb-17 13:38:29

I get 6 hours a week when oldest is at school and youngest at playgroup. Dh works away so that is literally the only time in the week I'm not in charge of at least one dc. I do not answer the door or the phone and people know not to talk to me. That time is sacred.

YANBU. I think you need to have an honest conversation so it doesn't happen again! Could you arrange a regular time and day to meet them so they can see the dc? Maybe at a soft play once a fortnight/month?

kayleighnotts Tue 07-Feb-17 13:38:48

if i'm not expecting anyone or a delivery i always ignore the door.

Babyiwantabump Tue 07-Feb-17 13:39:00

I was waiting for a delivery so I thought that's what it was .

I think I will just not answer the door from now on.
It was awful though. A whole hour of just me and PIL.

Me running round making them tea etc making small talk .

I could have been napping too!

Babyiwantabump Tue 07-Feb-17 13:39:50

I'm going to get OH to ask them to ring before they come I think .

Trifleorbust Tue 07-Feb-17 13:41:40

I would never just knock on the door of someone with little kids unless they were my own immediate family (definitely not in-laws). So rude!

Sunnydaysrock Tue 07-Feb-17 13:42:00

I can almost feel that heart dropping disappointment you must have felt when you answered the door. My DC are older but I clearly remember those incredibly precious few moments of peace...and the rage I felt at it being interrupted/ruined by visitors or a phone call (back in the day when I answered the home phone!). Yanbu, hope you claw your me time back at some point this week.

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