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qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 05-Feb-17 22:46:48

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qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 05-Feb-17 22:52:15

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Euphemia Sun 05-Feb-17 22:53:33

Does he work outside the home? Do you? Does he pull his weight at all?

Not enough info to tell at the moment.

flumpybear Sun 05-Feb-17 22:54:33

Make sure it has a spa!!

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 05-Feb-17 22:55:15

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Euphemia Sun 05-Feb-17 23:00:06

Why have you let it get this bad?

What does he say when you tell him he needs to be doing more?

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 05-Feb-17 23:02:08

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meltownmary Sun 05-Feb-17 23:03:02

Should have trained him from the start, on an equality basis.

Why didn't you?

That probably sounds harsh, not meant to be. But you reap what you sow.

How about looking after yourself and the DCs and leave DH to do his own stuff.

DesolateWaist Sun 05-Feb-17 23:04:02

Tell him to get to fuck. What does wages have to do with anything?

ilovesooty Sun 05-Feb-17 23:05:06

I doubt if booking into a hotel will effect any long term improvement.

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 05-Feb-17 23:07:15

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ilovesooty Sun 05-Feb-17 23:08:56

Even before you returned to work he should have been pulling his weight. Has he always been like this?

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 05-Feb-17 23:10:59

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ilovesooty Sun 05-Feb-17 23:11:38

Sorry that's not very clear. I'm assuming there were no "problems" because you did all the work at home when you were a SAHM. I meant has he always been difficult to communicate with?

ToastieRoastie Sun 05-Feb-17 23:13:32

He doesn't see you as an equal.

He'll cope with you going to a hotel for a few days - he'll manage to feed them, get them to bed. He won't see all the extra stuff you do day in and day out.

If you really want him to experience it, you'd have to be prepared to leave him to it for a lot longer than a few days.

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 05-Feb-17 23:15:00

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meltownmary Sun 05-Feb-17 23:15:44

You know what you have to do here.

A partnership is just that, ups and downs, yes, but no way should you take it all on.

Women are so often taking this sh!t on. Fecks sake.

But I suppose it depends on the relationship/culture/and so on.

I hope you will be ok OP. Might not be easy to assert yourself, but honestly , it's a no brainer.

What's the alternative? Just think about that.

Just to mention, there is no way on earth anyone, man or woman or transgender or whatever would tell me what to do.

That took years to realise this I admit. So start now. Please.

DesolateWaist Sun 05-Feb-17 23:17:42

He shouts if you don't do his stuff?

What qualifies as his stuff?

mintthins Sun 05-Feb-17 23:17:52

Honestly tell him to sling his lazy arrogant hook. Earnings have nothing to do with it and he needs to pull his weight and stop being such a lazy selfish arse.

ilovesooty Sun 05-Feb-17 23:19:42

It doesn't sound as though he's at all interested in achieving a marriage based on mutual respect. If he won't discuss where you are now it seems you might have to consider your options.

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 05-Feb-17 23:22:00

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Audreyhelp Sun 05-Feb-17 23:28:09

I would do things just for you and your children.

qwertyuiopasdfghjkl Sun 05-Feb-17 23:30:29

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DesolateWaist Sun 05-Feb-17 23:32:11

What are your options?
You know deep down that this relationship isn't worth saving.

GabsAlot Sun 05-Feb-17 23:34:14

his answer is i should leave

no i think he should-arsehole

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