My mom was 34 when she had me, lots of people even now make nasty comments about how it was too old.
Yesterday on here I saw a comment, obviously well meaning, about how people who have their kids "young" (specifically said at 25) only do so because they want unconditional love after difficult childhoods/ family relationships.
This really upset me and got me thinking. My first born could have lived, had the hospital not labelled me as a "young mom" at one point during my pregnancy, as I sat sobbing telling them something was wrong, (reduced movements 6 times without investigation) a nurse patted my hand and Said "you're a young first time mom, you'll worry more its normal". When she was born something was wrong, but by this time it was too late to help and she eventually passed. If they had investigated then she could have been born prem and stood a chance. (the coroners report said this I'm not assuming)
My local weight clinic is at a mother and baby group and the moms their are almost all older than me, I've had more than one comment that I should have waited a few years to start my family. I've not told these women I had one years ago. I never know what to say in these situations, I wouldn't dare comment on their age! Surely its an adults choice when they have children?
My mom had all these comments in reverse when she had me!
I was 19. I'm now 25 and just had my second. Hospital were lovely but I've had so many comments along the lines of "but you are so young to have had two... Don't you think 25 is young for this day and age..." Etc.
I was working when I had dd1, and had my own flat, sure it was a council rent but I worked to pay my rent. I'm working now and living with dp who also works in our own rented place. Not that I think this should make much of a difference
Why do people think a mothers age age gives them the right to judge what type of parent they will be? Does anyone else get annoyed by comments like this or aibu? If I'm not anyone any ideas how I can reply without telling them to keep their judgements to themselves and fuck off?
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LoveMyLittleSuperhero · 05/02/2017 17:43
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