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To think I've massively fucked up?

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user1485102013 Sun 05-Feb-17 03:06:46

Seeing a guy. Not official. Night out with girls. Dancing. Hot guy kissed me. Feel like I've cheated. Gutted.

MyHappyPerfume Sun 05-Feb-17 03:10:47

Same thing happened to me only it was a weekend away and I kissed 3 men (I wish they were all hot). Told my BF about 6 months down the line. We are about to celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary. I am pretty sure he's forgotten.

Motherfuckers Sun 05-Feb-17 03:41:27

What does "not official"' mean? If it means 'nothing serious', 'not exclusive' or 'just dating', then surely that is the norm? He may also be dating other people? I thought everyone did that?

user1485102013 Sun 05-Feb-17 03:57:13

We've not said we're in a relationship.

WhereYouLeftIt Sun 05-Feb-17 04:01:47

Do you consider yourself as being in a relationship? And if you do, why are you keeping it a secret?

LilacSpatula Sun 05-Feb-17 04:01:50

Ahh, you're fine. Go to sleep and forget about it.

ChishandFips33 Sun 05-Feb-17 04:19:02

Look at it as the thing that happened that made you realise you like the original guy more than you thought you probably did

SuperRainbows Sun 05-Feb-17 04:26:35

I agree with ChisandFips.
Would you like to 'official'?

SuperRainbows Sun 05-Feb-17 04:27:06

be 'official'

Deadsouls Sun 05-Feb-17 04:46:37

I would not say you have 'massively fucked up', no. It's done. You're not in a relationship. I'd move on and just put it down to experience.

Mummyoflittledragon Sun 05-Feb-17 05:47:15

It's just a kiss. Remember tonight and ensure this doesn't happen again. Move on. If your relationship is meant to be, one kiss won't ruin it.

TheStoic Sun 05-Feb-17 05:48:26

Your conscience is working. That's a good thing. Vow not to do it again, and then don't do it again.

picklemepopcorn Sun 05-Feb-17 06:44:40

It's early days. Let it go.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat Sun 05-Feb-17 06:48:16

Yeah it's only cheating if there's an actual relationship. The way you're feeling seems like it might be time to make it official?

DoctorTwo Sun 05-Feb-17 07:12:32

Seeing a guy. Not official

I don't think you've done owt wrong.

DonaldStott Sun 05-Feb-17 07:15:20

Think you're over analysing after a few drinks. Forget about it.

caffelatte100 Sun 05-Feb-17 07:19:49

It all sounds ok to me, perhaps this means you want to be exclusive?

BeverlyGoldberg Sun 05-Feb-17 07:26:40

"I was out the other night and this guy came on to me and kissed me. I didn't like it, it made me feel like I don't want to kiss other boys because I only want to kiss you. How do you feel about only kissing me? Shall we make this official"

Miserylovescompany2 Sun 05-Feb-17 08:02:08

I think you are stuck in limbo and want that exclusive GF label. As the saying goes here up North "shy bairns get nowt" so ASK if he wants you as a GF? The worst he can say is "hell no, I only want a fuck buddy" at least then you know where you stand. Depending on his answer? You can cut your loses or start a relationship...

(He might actually say...I thought we were? Then I'd develop a sudden case of selective amnesia over the kiss)

The kiss? Forget it smile

user1485102013 Sun 05-Feb-17 08:10:55

I sent him a text straight after and told him. I don't want to lie to him before we even get together properly. I spent the night drunk texting him telling him how much i like him and then I go and kiss hot guy on the dance floor!

We're not exclusive and have both agreed were taking things slow whatever that means.

lampshady Sun 05-Feb-17 08:19:38

Re: your last post - I'd put this one to bed. If someone I was casually seeing was drunkenly texting me how much they liked me and then told me they'd kissed someone I'd think they were slightly erratic and possibly a bit full on. It sounds like he's leading the pace anyway and you don't have much control of your relationship status? Do you want to be exclusive?

user1485102013 Sun 05-Feb-17 08:22:18

Eventually yes I want to be exclusive. But I wanted to take things slow for now. Not slow enough for me to be kissing randomers on a night out though which I haven't done since I was about 21 confused

user1485102013 Sun 05-Feb-17 08:24:59

lamp what do you mean you'd put it to bed? The guy I'm seeing or what I did?

lampshady Sun 05-Feb-17 08:45:41

The guy you're seeing, sorry - I'm not very clear. Did he reply to your messages positively? I don't think you owe him exclusivity if he's been clear to you it's not exclusive. Not a nice feeling for you at the moment but try not to dwell on it. It might all be fine!

Casschops Sun 05-Feb-17 08:48:04

Forget it, put the kiss to bed. Don't do it again and see it as sign to make it official with the other bloke xx

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