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To think that every child you have, brings new friends into your life

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LardLizard Sat 04-Feb-17 23:36:05


DJKKSlider Sat 04-Feb-17 23:39:33


It brings parents of ypour kids friends into your life.
What if you don't like ypour kids friends parents?
What if you have nothing in common with them but ypour kids love reach other? Should you just be friends due to the fact your kids share geography on every second Wednesday?

I wouldn't know... I'm Buzz Killington and I have no friends. grin

Awwlookatmybabyspider Sat 04-Feb-17 23:43:58

Well no not necessarily. Just because for example the women over the road had her baby 2 days before me. Its not written in the book of the Lamb that We'd be best friends, and as for the cliques at the school gate. The only thing I have in common with those snotty caahs is that I had sex within the same year as themgrin

Only1scoop Sat 04-Feb-17 23:44:54


LardLizard Sat 04-Feb-17 23:52:12

Oh yeah totally agree, you won't become great friend with someone purely because you have children the same age

Surely the law of averages has to come into play at some point, due to sheer amount of people you meet along the way, at parks playgrouos preschool then school
There will be sure to be a few good eggs on the way

DJKKSlider Sat 04-Feb-17 23:56:38

Maybe it kicks in later but my DD is almost 4, been at stay and plays, nurseries and she started school nursery in September last year.
So far I've spoken to ERM? None of the mums at the school gates, none of the mums at the stay and plays, soft plays, play groups etc.

I've actually been looked at with judgement and suspicion, they mostly have this face: hmm

I think I emit an aura of aloofness and cool.... Gf reckons I'm just a grumpy anti social misanthrope.... Same difference. grin

engineersthumb Sat 04-Feb-17 23:57:27

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Grumpbum Sat 04-Feb-17 23:59:10

I've been out tonight for gin with my NCT lot 6 years down the line we can still drink gin and moan. I love them

early30smum Sun 05-Feb-17 00:00:02

The way I look at it is, I have friends who I'd be friends with even if we didn't have our kids being friends in common. Then I have 'friends' who are only my friends (and I use that term loosely) because we have kids of the same age/at the same school etc. Once that's no longer the case, that will be the end of the friendship. I also actively make less effort to make close friendships with my second DC's friends mums because to be honest, I don't have time.

early30smum Sun 05-Feb-17 00:00:43

However, saying all that, some of my closest friends are people I've met through having DC1.

engineersthumb Sun 05-Feb-17 00:02:55

DJKK... can't remember the rest
X posted but are you in engineering by chance?
The only reason I managed to procreate was that my wife works in a female dominated environment, she once described the engineering department by saying "the odds are good but the goods are odd"!

IMissGrannyW Sun 05-Feb-17 00:03:00

Eurrrgh! At most of the PPs here... We were surprised and delighted at the friends we made through DDs friends, and continue to be so.

It was an unexpected bonus. As was the fact that after DD moved on, OUR friendships have lasted.

Thegiantofillinois Sun 05-Feb-17 00:04:54

Ds has; made some goodfriends. Dd..nope. Parents won't even make eye contact. Ds is in a lovely class; Dd (5) complains that the boys are always fighting. The girls appear to be a volatile bunch (falling out all the time etc). Think I can see where they get it from.

DJKKSlider Sun 05-Feb-17 00:06:10


I'm a SAHD grin

engineersthumb Sun 05-Feb-17 00:06:56

Small long ago was the last time you heard from these "good friends".

engineersthumb Sun 05-Feb-17 00:08:25

When you return to work try software engineeringsmile

DorcasthePuffin Sun 05-Feb-17 00:08:25

I agree, OP. Having kids is a great way of meeting new people.

Hawkmoth Sun 05-Feb-17 00:08:49

Four kids. No friends. Poop.

engineersthumb Sun 05-Feb-17 00:10:27

I would say misery love company... but my wife might find out!

IMissGrannyW Sun 05-Feb-17 00:10:32

We went out last Friday engineers. (there's a class, we go every week) is that good enough? Does it count? We emailed today if it doesn't. (TBH, I sent an email, don't know if I've had a reply yet. Should I go and check my inbox?)

engineersthumb Sun 05-Feb-17 00:11:14

Some of the parents look as odd as the kids... dame that loss of internal monologue!

Sparklingbrook Sun 05-Feb-17 00:11:26

At all the different stages from YR to YR4 I had loads of Mum friends as our DC went to school together. All fizzled out when they went to Middle School and no school gate stuff any more so arrangements weren't made.

I am on chatty terms with some of my teenagers' friends' mums now but don't see them socially.

engineersthumb Sun 05-Feb-17 00:13:04

*damn not dame*

engineersthumb Sun 05-Feb-17 00:37:35

Oo you're one of those socially functional people I've heard about, is the class on being disapproving of others by any chance...are you teaching it!

Araminta99 Sun 05-Feb-17 04:13:20

No I don't think so. None of my friends are parents, I don't want to be friends with parents in particular, as often all they talk about is their children. I choose my friends on the basis of them being lovely and interesting.

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