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AIBU regarding theatre experience?

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WildBelle Sat 04-Feb-17 19:19:26

I took my DDs to the theatre last night as a treat. I was up to my neck in uni work all xmas holidays so we didn't really go out and do much, so I got us tickets to see a show that I knew they'd both love. I hope I don't offend anyone with this post, I have a dd with a disability so that's the last thing I want to do.

Throughout the first half there was someone in the audience who kept singing happy birthday VERY loudly. This ramped up significantly in the second half, it was pretty much constant and very distracting, and then was accompanied by someone else who was making very loud noises (and sounded quite distressed). i am assuming that they were older children or adults with learning difficulties. Now don't get me wrong, I am completely behind the idea of people with disabilities having access to theatre or anything else, but in the second half particularly the noises coming from that direction were so loud that it was impossible to hear what was going on on stage.

If someone had a baby that was crying, they would have taken them out to avoid disturbing everyone else. I can't help thinking that the carers should have done something about it, particularly when it escalated in the second half. I personally feel disppointed that the show was ruined a bit by not being able to hear, as a single parent it's not something I can afford to do that often. There was probably getting on for 1000 people in the theatre and they would have all been affected by the noise levels.

I probably sound horrible and I really don't mean to, but AIBU?

MsJudgemental Sat 04-Feb-17 19:21:31


Janey50 Sat 04-Feb-17 19:22:54


frauleinsallybowles Sat 04-Feb-17 19:23:32

you are not being unreasonable at all op

SEsofty Sat 04-Feb-17 19:23:44

Yadnbu and theatre staff should have got them to leave

user892 Sat 04-Feb-17 19:24:23

YANBU but I don't know what the answer is.

WildBelle Sat 04-Feb-17 19:27:02

I was kind of hoping the staff might go over and step in, but I guess they might have been afraid to for fear of being seen as discriminatory or something. It's probably the kind of thing you can get sued for these days!

WildBelle Sat 04-Feb-17 19:27:20

I was kind of hoping the staff might go over and step in, but I guess they might have been afraid to for fear of being seen as discriminatory or something. It's probably the kind of thing you can get sued for these days!

Floralnomad Sat 04-Feb-17 19:27:26

YANBU , did you complain to the theatre last night ?

WildBelle Sat 04-Feb-17 19:29:10

No I didn't, it was late by the time the show ended and we had a long drive home, but I'm thinking of dropping them an email.

hesterton Sat 04-Feb-17 19:29:23

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JustSpeakSense Sat 04-Feb-17 19:30:09

YANBU at all.

I would complain to the theatre.

GallivantingWildebeest Sat 04-Feb-17 19:30:17

YANBU. The rights of a couple of people don't trump the rights of hundreds of people who have paid ££ to see a show. Anyone being noisy should have been taken out.

Did you complain to the theatre last night?

GallivantingWildebeest Sat 04-Feb-17 19:30:53

Yes, definitely email the theatre. I bet others will have complained too.

WildBelle Sat 04-Feb-17 19:32:07

We were in the cheap seats, god knows how pissed off the people who were sitting in the pricy seats must have been (as that's where the noises were coming from so they'd have had it worse).

WildBelle Sat 04-Feb-17 19:32:59

Ok I will definitely email them. thanks for the reassurance that I'm not BU!

LouKout Sat 04-Feb-17 19:34:11


CupOfTeaAndAbiscuitPlease Sat 04-Feb-17 19:34:30


A persons disability should not impede negatively on others to such an extent that your enjoyment is curtailed.

My ds1 has ASD and we have always left if he is becoming distressed. I do believe, as you do OP that they have an absolute right to being able to access all entertainment and provision should be made to assist with that but not at the expense of your family time

Emberroo Sat 04-Feb-17 19:34:58

Perhaps you should have said something at the time, or mentioned it on the way out of the theatre.

LouKout Sat 04-Feb-17 19:35:01

Youre completely behind people with LDs having access to theatre yet they should be removed from the theatre.

Littlefish Sat 04-Feb-17 19:35:21

Many theatres put on shows specifically for anyone who might have difficulty accessing one of their standard performances. My friends little boy is on the autistic spectrum and they go to these because he's likely to shout out.

Is there any chance that's what this show was?

CupOfTeaAndAbiscuitPlease Sat 04-Feb-17 19:35:33

Why Loukout

CupOfTeaAndAbiscuitPlease Sat 04-Feb-17 19:36:02

Sorry crosspost

SauvignonBlanche Sat 04-Feb-17 19:36:26

What was the production?

WildBelle Sat 04-Feb-17 19:36:47

Littlefish - no it was just a regular show.

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