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AIBU?

Pregnant and hormonal ... aibu?

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sailorcherries · 04/02/2017 19:16

It's not very long, and I'm probably a tad hormonal. I am 25 weeks pregnant today and, at 17 weeks, I had a 3d gender scan: a good potty shot showed little one was most definitely a boy.

At our 20 week scan the NHS ultrasound tech couldn't get a clear shot but thought he was still a he.
I have another scan at 30 weeks and a last one at 34 weeks (issues related to growth and previous pregnancy). So a lot of time to see if he is still a he.

OHs mum went to see a medium who told her baby is a girl, now we apparently should get another 3d scan to check at our own expense. She's completely convinced. I'm refusing and apparently being unreasonable because she needs to know and we'll need to change things.

Tell me I'm not being unreasonable to just say no to this ridiculousness?

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Ilovecaindingle · 04/02/2017 19:18

Tell her all of mn tell you the scan is right and it's def a boy!!

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WetsTheFinger · 04/02/2017 19:20

She is crazy and unreasonable for being sucked in by a medium. And no of course you shouldn't pay for another scan. You will all find out the gender in a few months anyway, who cares?!

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user892 · 04/02/2017 19:21

YANBU. Load of shit. Look forward to being right and the con artist medium being wrong.

Scans should be kept to an absolute minimum as there are safely risks. She is being vv unreasonable.

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harderandharder2breathe · 04/02/2017 19:22

Sibu

So what if it turns out all the previous scans were wrong anyway? apart from her gloating forevermore

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KateDaniels2 · 04/02/2017 19:25

Just ignore her.

Mil told me her medium told her the baby i was pregnant with was a boy and he would be the only one i would have. I knew the baby was a girl and i now have 2 kids.

I just said 'oh......anyway i have to go now bye"'

Simple. Nothing to get upset by.

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Crunchymum · 04/02/2017 19:38

So you had one scan = boy and another scan = most likely boy and you have 2 more scheduled?

So you haven't had a load of scans confirming boy? Just the one (and a half) ?

I still wouldn't worry it's usually girls that end up being boys if the gender scan was wrong.

Kindly tell your MIL to stick her hocus pocus up her bum

user892 do you have evidence to support this? My DC2 was high risk and I had at least 10 scan with her. She is fine. Please don't scaremonger!!!

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sailorcherries · 04/02/2017 19:45

First scan showed two little testicles nestled between two little legs.
Second scan baby was lying almost face down but confirmed as much as she could.
We will have another 2 before he comes and still have time to swap items (I'm an obsessive reciept keeper).

The worst that could happen is the baby has a lot of gender neutral clothes to begin with and I would need to swap some older clothes.

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sailorcherries · 04/02/2017 19:46

Also, currently eating mini sausage rolls, nuggets and bread and butter: the anger is slowly subsiding. I'm possibly hangry.

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passingthrough1 · 04/02/2017 19:49

That's ridiculous. Even if he was a she (which he obviously isn't) what would she or you need to change anyway?

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ConvincingLiar · 04/02/2017 19:54

How about saying to MiL that if she'd like you to check it's going to cost £x and then just tell her what the 30 week scan says. Whilst it'd be wrong to rip your mother in law off, she's only going to go and waste her money on fucking nonsense from a charlatan.

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user892 · 04/02/2017 20:08

Anyway, why can't a girl wear blue stuff?

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Champagneformyrealfriends · 04/02/2017 20:23

It sounds to me like she really wants the baby to be a girl and is clinging on to false hope. SIBU.

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haveacupoftea · 04/02/2017 20:23

YANBU. She is being a pain in the arse.

Btw a psychic told me i'm having a girl when I was 15 weeks. 3 weeks later gender scan suggested boy and 20 week scan confirmed it.

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PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 04/02/2017 20:26

Why is this even a conversation. Just say you're not paying for it. You have had your 3D scan.
I'm sure there is a time they tell you it's not really worth going as it's all too squished to get a real shot. Just tell her that

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StarlingMurderation · 04/02/2017 20:31

YANBU. Also there are no reputable studies that show ultrasounds to be dangerous, so don't worry about that.

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pikapoo · 04/02/2017 20:31

YANBU!
She can wait till the next scan.

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Prompto · 04/02/2017 20:44

I've had at least a dozen scans per pregnancy and I've yet to give birth to a three headed child. Ultrasounds are perfectly safe, if they weren't then they'd tell you the risks before letting you decide whether to have one or not and the private 'baby boutique' scanning places on the high street would be much more heavily regulated. You can get a scan at Mothercare now, for goodness sake.

OP, I wouldn't get another scan on the say so of a medium. That's ridiculous. Keep your money, the scans you have had say you're having a boy so you are more than likely having a boy.

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Cherrysoup · 04/02/2017 20:48

Thought it was x rays that were dodgy? I've always thought scans were fine. Echo technology, surely?

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RueDeDay · 04/02/2017 20:51

These mediums are missing a trick. My Grandad was a GP and had a near god-like reputation as being able to predict baby's sex from bump size/position etc (all in the days before scans obviously). If the Mum-to-be asked to know the sex, he would tell her one thing then write the other in his notes. If he was right... No problem. If he was wrong, the new Mum would tell him so, at which point he would look puzzled, say 'no I definitely remember saying the other - let me check my notes' and then he'd be able to 'prove' to the poor confused sleep deprived new Mum that she'd misheard all along. Evil, but very effective.

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FatOldBag · 04/02/2017 21:00

Medium my arse! I'm a large and I say it's a boy. Tell her she's been outranked.

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