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AIBU?

Busy vs Lazy weekends

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Imabadmummy · 04/02/2017 09:57

I am sure I have seen post about this but really can't find them now.

Kids both knackered after a long week at school. Me & husband also tired after a long week of work.

I really don't wanna "do" anything at the weekend, maybe a bit of batch cooking & cleaning, but I feel like we should go out even if it's just to the park for an hour to get the kids out.

AIBU to expect the kids to stay in all weekend & play (they could play in the garden if they wanted) just so I don't have to go out?

Kids are 4 & 5. Eldest would watch TV 24/7 if we let him, youngest is happy to get all the toys we own out & play.
Eldest does ask if we can go out somewhere, which is annoying as often on a Fri we have tears as he's tired & doesn't want to go to school! (He sleeps great at night so that's not the issue!)

Can't help but feel lazy and like I'm not setting a great example for the kids!

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allowlsthinkalot · 04/02/2017 09:58

Kids need down time too!

HeCantBeSerious · 04/02/2017 10:00

My kids choose to and regularly request demand lie ins and pj days. I love them.

Highalert · 04/02/2017 10:00

It's fine. No need to drag everyone to the park if they don't want to go.

Have a great weekend.

DragonMamma · 04/02/2017 10:01

I frequently have this internal battle. Except my kids always want a pj day on a Saturday and battle with me if I try and make them do otherwise.

As a PP said, kids need downtime too. Mine are either at after-school or an activity 3 times a week so their day doesn't end until 6pm so they are shattered after a busy week as much as I am.

I haven't found a solution but you're not alone in your thoughts/guilt!

taptonaria27 · 04/02/2017 10:01

I think an hour at the park is doable within a lazy weekend. I know what you mean though, my conscience shouts at me if we don't get out at least once, and generally we all feel and behave better for it.

ShowMePotatoSalad · 04/02/2017 10:02

I feel like it's a relatively new thing to always have to have activities planned. When I was a kid it was very rare that we actually went on some kind of outing at the weekend - we may have gone out once in a while over the summer holidays or on a walk or a drive on a Sunday, but mostly we stayed at home and were expected to entertain ourselves. We had the garden, toys, a bit of TV, games, etc but there wasn't this feeling of pressure or expectation that we had to go somewhere and do something. It was nice being at home after a week of school.

Maximummonkey · 04/02/2017 10:04

We tend to have one quiet day at the weekend and one going out doing day, especially during the wi ter, more out and about when the weather improves. We go camping a lot at weekends during the summer, so that's always busy.
Each to their own though, if the family are happy, go for it.

longestlurkerever · 04/02/2017 10:10

Totally up to you. We all start to bicker and feel cooped up if we stay in all day, but we don't have a massive garden. I think of the weekend as being a lazy one if we haven't been anywhere in the car on the tube. But I told my mum we hadn't really done anything at the weekend and she looked at me as if I was mad and said "DD just said you went to the cinema, a friend's house, soft play and ice skating". Erm, yes, I suppose we did

vdbfamily · 04/02/2017 10:11

I LOVE a weekend with nothing arranged. We normally get out somewhere eventually and the dog always needs his walks but to have nothing on the calendar is great. It is now past 10am and my DH is the only one dressed in this house as he has walked the dog and had some builders round to quote on stuff. I think it is very healthy if you have a busy week generally.

longestlurkerever · 04/02/2017 10:13

Yes I suppose that was the difference. None of the things we did had been planned in advance so it felt relaxed

Trills · 04/02/2017 10:15

I'm not lazy I am deliberately relaxing.

HandsomeDevil · 04/02/2017 10:20

I totally get that no-one wants to be running around like a headless chicken, but however knackered we all are, I'm not sure about not going out for two whole days.

I think a lazy day (singular) is fine, but a quick hour in the park or the woods on one of the days makes all of us feel better and sleep better, even if none of us fancy it to start with .

chipsnmayo · 04/02/2017 10:22

Tbh I think you should take the kids out of house sometime during the weekend, it doesn't have to park.

Saturdays were always lazy day in our house, I'd let DD watch tv during the morning then in the afternoon we'd probably head off to the shops (grocery shopping and whatever else needed to be done in town). Sundays we generally did stuff, DD often had some sort of activity, possibly visit friends, cinema etc.

longestlurkerever · 04/02/2017 10:29

Our local cinema does £1 tickets for older films in the mornings. We tend to do that as a lazy activity.

Ponderingprivately · 04/02/2017 10:32

I don't think there's anything wrong with it if your kids don't mind. Mine climb the walls if we don't get out at least once, but if I could get them to stay in all day without grizzling I probably would now and again.

We live in a city though, and have a whole bunch of good parks within a 5-10 minute drive so it doesn't feel like a big outing for us.

empirerecordsrocked · 04/02/2017 10:35

Two days in the house without getting out with nearly 6yo dts would drive me insane. An hour in the park would be our lazy day.

We have swimming lessons on Saturdays and today that's all we are doing. Tomorrow we have nothing planned so lazy day but will include at least getting out with the dog.

Cadenza1818 · 04/02/2017 10:35

I feel sooo guilty if I stay in the house but we all kind of need it on one day of the weekend. As you say, kids are usually tired from school. I get a bit twitchy without a plan though

TeenAndTween · 04/02/2017 10:48

Whatever works for you.

We 'go out' somewhere both days of the weekend, because the children get scratchy if they are indoors all the time, and they don't sleep so well. So it might be just a quick walk around local park, but we do something.

Olympiathequeen · 04/02/2017 10:52

At this time of year when it's cold, wet and miserable and everyone is run down from the endless coughs and colds, no one has much in the way of energy. Just all take it easy if that's what you feel like and look forward to being reenergised when the nice weather and sun arrive sometime in August

elodie2000 · 04/02/2017 10:56

Me, a week or so ago!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2840511-To-just-stay-in

Here doing nothing again!! Enjoy just relaxing OP!

StarlingMurderation · 04/02/2017 11:08

DS and I have a three day weekend as I don't work on Fridays. We try to do things on two of those days - for instance, this week we went to see a friend who has just had a new baby and also has a DD who is DS's age on Friday, today were mainly doing laundry and mooching around the house, and tomorrow we're going to friends for lunch, and will go for a nice country walk beforehand with them if it's fine. Last weekend we went to soft play on Friday and met DP on his lunch break, went to a museum (very interactive exhibits discussing on one of DS's favourite things) and had lunch out on Saturday, then didn't do much Sunday. I think it's good for all of us to have a day of downtime - I especially think it's good for DS to get used to the idea that some days we just need to do laundry, clean, go to the supermarket etc and therefore the day won't revolve around entertaining him.

StarlingMurderation · 04/02/2017 11:10

*focussing, not discussing

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celeste84 · 04/02/2017 11:11

Need to get some fresh air in your lungs though at some point in the weekend even if its only down the park

AliDran · 04/02/2017 11:31

We do nothing on Saturdays as the rest of the week we are doing something-my 7 yr old has activity or after school club 4 days a week and drama class for 3 hours on a Sunday, and my 2 yr old twins either have nursery or play group or activity every week day morning, so I think they need Saturdays to just relax at home. (My 7yr old might not agree though..)

saoirse31 · 04/02/2017 11:44

Can't imagine not getting kids that age out for a few hours both days tbh. Big difference bt planned activities, and going to park, beach, zoo, museum wherever with your family.

Dont think being stuck in house for entire weekend, however happily at their age, is good for anyone tbh. And if ur kids r that tired, maybe they need more sleep during week. Tho maybe ur 7 yr old wants to miss school rather than being tired. I'd be slightly concerned actually if kids that age were over tired after normal school week.

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