DH has an awful habit of watching TV shows like MIC, TOWIE, KUWTK etc. Intellectually I'm on a different planet to him. Noise cancelling earphone that work are being saved for.
Luckily or maybe unluckily DS looks up to footballers and gamer you tubers. No real problem there, although he is aware of his appearance, wants a toned body, fashionable facial hair (a long way off) plus pristine hair.
DD is into Shopkins, Lego and dolls. But a big worry for me is when she hears about teen celebrities, she will have an unrealistic expectation of appearance, what to wear clothes and make up wise. I really would love it if she could keep her innocence of youth for as long as she can. I know this is an issue that affects both sexes. If you have teens how do you deal with it or are you relaxed about them doing as they wish?
Out of the above there's one family who make a mint from tween fans with clothing lines and make up lines. Of course DD loves dress up, having a girly day painting nails and playing with make up is fun and good role play. Maybe I have unrealistic expectations but I want her to wear moderate clothes, instead of flashing lots of skin when she reaches her teens. As an adult the choice is up to my DD, but the whole idea sex sells, or being sexy helps you acquire what you want is of concern.
I really want to enforce positive body images, so size isn't an issue, I can't see her getting obese, but I worry about all these super skinny role models and her getting an eating disorder. Another worry is body dysmorphia, especially given the youngest of this famous family has had a total, magical transformation. As an adult it is my DD's body to do as she wishes, but should she have small breasts or large, it shouldn't be a concern.
I've seen teens wear those padded bras that add 2 cup sizes, under say a stroppy top. Obviously DD wears vest tops, but I would be horrified to take her underwear shopping and for her to make a b-line for anything inappropriate. I don't know if you agree, but until 16/18 it's underwear not lingerie. It's there to fulfil a purpose, to support her growing body.
Similar with make up, when at high school, I hope 13/14+ at the earliest she can add blush, lip gloss and maybe eyebrow pencil. Not the whole range of Rimmel or Maybeline. I do worry that people who put themselves out there as role models give false hope, leading to teenagers hating everything about how they look. Hopefully I can find role models that promote beauty within your own skin, accepting perceived flaws etc.
I'm sure I'm in for a huge shock, what I wish for and what happens are two completely different things. I've seen the new range of clothes bought out by the 19 year old (?) everything screams look at me, look at my body, aren't I beautiful. When beauty can come in many forms.
I remember cousins being aware of the wonderbra due to how it was advertised at 12/13+ They also would read their Mum's Cosmo which wasn't all that appropriate, but it made them feel grown up. I read alternative women's magazines so that influence won't be about, but friends and whatever she searches on her Kindle Fire will be.
Like I said above, it's not solely a girl thing, but boys are getting more in touch with how they look too.
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SingingInTheRainstorm · 03/02/2017 04:57
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