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To leave DC (7&9) alone

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iismum Thu 02-Feb-17 14:59:10

I go to the gym before doing the school run a couple of days a week. I leave the DC at home and they get on with getting ready for school on their own (usually, but there's time to nag them into if they haven't). DH is in but usually asleep, so they can go and wake him up if they need to but they never do.

DH is going to be away next week and I'm really not keen to miss my gym sessions as I'm training for an event and this is crunch time. We live in a flat and know everyone else on the stair. We have friends on the next floor down who have a DC of a similar age and will be in at this time getting ready for school themselves.

WIBU to leave the kids on their own in the flat for around an hour whilst I'm out, explaining that if they need anything they should go downstairs (outside our flat) to the neighbour rather than upstairs (in our flat) to DH?

dementedpixie Thu 02-Feb-17 15:00:47

No I wouldn't do it at that age

dementedpixie Thu 02-Feb-17 15:01:13

Could you leave them with the neighbour instead?

Thefishtankneedswater Thu 02-Feb-17 15:01:27

I would not

jackieeee Thu 02-Feb-17 15:02:18

Yabu - the gym can wait.

JennyOnAPlate Thu 02-Feb-17 15:02:53

Absolutely not. 9 year old fine, but 7 year old no.

MirandaWest Thu 02-Feb-17 15:03:09

What time would you be out? Would they be awake when you left, and how long would you be? To me there's a difference between a DH being asleep but there and not there at all.

I don't think I'd do it, and I am more on the line of leaving children from a younger age than some.

longdiling Thu 02-Feb-17 15:03:37

9 plus an older child I would but 7 feels too young for me. I can't imagine leaving my 6.5 year old with her 10 year old brother.

iismum Thu 02-Feb-17 15:03:55

Hmm. I do kind of feel that I shouldn't ... I leave at about 6.20, which is not that early for my DC but probably a bit early to expect a neighbour to look after them. Maybe I can do some kind of intense exercise at home ..? I hate it when DH goes away, it totally screws up my gym routine!

Trifleorbust Thu 02-Feb-17 15:04:36

Of course I wouldn't.

CremeEggThief Thu 02-Feb-17 15:05:01

I agree the 9 year old would probably be fine, but 7 is just too young.

longdiling Thu 02-Feb-17 15:05:12

Yes I'd go for exercise at home! I hate my exercise routine being disrupted too so I feel your pain. has some great work outs and it's free.

iamapixiebutnotaniceone Thu 02-Feb-17 15:05:23

hmm the mind boggles! Surely you know that is a terrible idea?

Agiraffeisnotacat Thu 02-Feb-17 15:05:32

No, they are too young.

iismum Thu 02-Feb-17 15:07:17

Ok! You are right, it isn't a good idea. The flat really are right on top of each other, it's just a few steps for them to go down to reach the neighbour - but still, I agree that I shouldn't do it.

PrettyLittleBrownEyedMe Thu 02-Feb-17 15:12:08

I definitely wouldn't do this. In my view they are too young to be left alone, not only in case of something going wrong but also because I think it's nice to have someone there 'caring' and overseeing them organising themselves. I didn't do anything like this with mine until they were about 12 (but I may have been over-hovering....)

Snowflakes1122 Thu 02-Feb-17 15:14:13

To go to the gym? hmm No, I wouldn't at their ages.

sparepantsandtoothbrush Thu 02-Feb-17 15:14:36

Absolutely not. I see you have said you wont but I can't believe you even asked!!

brokenheartdog Thu 02-Feb-17 15:15:40

I wouldn't have considered this till mine went to secondary really.

Mulberry72 Thu 02-Feb-17 15:16:35

Definitely not!

Your gym session will have to wait.

pilates Thu 02-Feb-17 15:32:14


user1484578224 Thu 02-Feb-17 15:33:13

interesting priorities

RB68 Thu 02-Feb-17 15:34:15

No the answer is that it is not unavoidable ie can do exercise at home or miss one session or do a run at lunch time or SOMETHING is possible so def. No

TheSnorkMaidenReturns Thu 02-Feb-17 15:34:29

No, definitely not at 7 unless it is an life or death emergency. Sadly the gym is not!

unfortunateevents Thu 02-Feb-17 15:35:33

It's a no from me. The 9 year old is too young and definitely too young to be left with a 7 year old as well. All very well to say that they can go down to the neighbour but the type of emergency which might happen is the very thing which would prevent them from getting to the neighbour in the first place! Can you not go in the evening when it might be possible to get someone to look after them?

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