There's never 'nothing to it'. Well, in the sense that if she isn't talking to you, then for sure it's intentional and she's got a problem with you. Having said that, she might not be fair in having a problem with you - probably absolutely isn't, as it sounds like you've done nothing!!
Common reasons for one or more mums to start giving you the cold shoulder are:
- You said something to another mum or mums who you thought were friends and on your side - maybe you made a joke, maybe you had a bit too much coffee that morning and not enough food and you made a few exaggerated comments that possibly you didn't even really mean, but whatever you said, one or more of those 'friend' mums lit upon it, seized it and reported it to one or more others outside the coffee table. It then got blown up somehow into you're a cow/you hate someone/you have wrong views/you're a ... bad mum.
Sometimes just a general small bit of gossip about you - from nothing so much as where you parked your car, or that you were wearing flipflops at the gate when it was quite cold in early September - can be enough to make the more shallow and image-conscious, ambitious mums reject you.
They literally drop you like a leper, because you become untouchable ...
- Or your child inadvertently said something to her child that was reported at home and taken as bad in some way - that will also do it, and also most likely is unfair.
- Or she's after your husband and trying to turn others against you (trust me, this reason also manifests itself - it does exist).
- Or one time she saw you but you didn't see her as you were driving/busy/hadn't got your lenses in - some mothers react v badly to this, and have no perspective.
- Or she texted you and you didn't reply, or didn't reply promptly enough or with the right answer. Maybe even her text didn't send and you never got it, but you're still in the wrong ...
- Or your kid won something or was better than her kid or was praised above hers in something and she and/or the kid were upset. Could even be your kid is, eg, a reading level higher than hers. (or, God forbid, yours is on CHAPTER books before hers!!!!).
- Or, of course, maybe her husband said you seem nice. OMG. You will be dropped like a hot coal.
- Finally, if you are a threat in any way at all to her (mostly in ways you'd be totally oblivious to), then, if she's that type, she will just block you.
All the above are common reasons. Depressing, I know : )
But don't take it personally! Fcck her if she's being mean for no reason. And won't explain to you. Stop being nice to her. Breeze past. Don't worry. Soon you'll be in a different school. This gate nonsense doesn't last forever.