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AIBU to think that people who don't have young children who park in parent and child spaces are selfish?

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Kjc105 Wed 01-Feb-17 18:37:00

I was reading an article on the Daily Fail about a young couple with a baby who were left a note saying that parent and child spaces are for people with children (they were with their baby) but what annoyed me were people commenting under the article who were saying that they always park in parent and child even if there are other spaces available as they feel parents are entitled to too many things and why should they be inconvenienced by people having children. Is it me or is this totally selfish as the reason why those spaces are they are for the safety of the children, more space so other car doors aren't dented and closer to the store so it is generally safer for children and less likely for a child to be hit by a car. AIBU to think these people are selfish?

sonyaya Wed 01-Feb-17 18:40:57

Personally as someone without children I wouldn't park in them as I am able bodied and don't need to, but I do have some sympathy with those who feel like second class citizens because they are childless.

Crowdblundering Wed 01-Feb-17 18:41:52


AllTheLight Wed 01-Feb-17 18:42:48

YANBU. When I had 3 DC under 4 I really needed one of those spaces!

PlayOnWurtz Wed 01-Feb-17 18:44:34

Yabu. They're spaces anyone can park in and are a courtesy afforded by shops. They are rightfully not a legal obligation nor are they a right.

As someone with mobility issues I will continue to use them without my dc.

Sirzy Wed 01-Feb-17 18:45:21

If a space is free use it. If not park elsewhere. Don't worry about where anyone else is parking. They are handy but that's all.

Kjc105 Wed 01-Feb-17 18:46:14

Allthelight I totally agree! I have a 1 year old and I these spaces are so necessary! Having to get a whole car seat out when they are little to put onto the trolley means having to open the door all the way and sometimes ordinary spaces just don't cut it.

SquedgieBeckenheim Wed 01-Feb-17 18:47:12

I do get mildly irritated sometimes by the parents who park there with teenage children. Or the parents I saw once with a baby in the car - where only one parent got out and the other parent and baby stayed in the car!
Personally I don't park there if I don't have DD with me, and intend to stop using them when I no longer have a toddler. I understand that the reason behind them is so you have more space to get the door fully open so you can manoeuvre a child into/out of a car seat. However, I would never be brave enough to say anything to someone else!

Sirzy Wed 01-Feb-17 18:47:29

You don't have to get the whole car seat out though. You choose to. There is a difference.

Dawndonnaagain Wed 01-Feb-17 18:47:43

I use them all the time and will continue to do so until Tesco put the BB spaces nearer the door.

gamerchick Wed 01-Feb-17 18:47:53

Personally I think they should be at the bottom of the car park, not next to the entrance. Solve all problems then, they're just for extra room after all,

zzzzz Wed 01-Feb-17 18:48:34

I didn't find them necessary when my children were pushchair age, but now they are older they are very helpful.

Kjc105 Wed 01-Feb-17 18:48:40

How are you meant to do the shopping with a newborn then if you don't take the whole car seat out?

CherryChasingDotMuncher Wed 01-Feb-17 18:48:41

You will be told YABU and get sneered at for having the audacity to think that having children means you should have a parent & child space before someone without a child (I've never seen this attitude except on MN).

But I think YANBU, I have a newborn and toddler and need the room to open the doors. I wouldn't get worked up about someone who is elderly or not able bodied using the spaces are blue badges are very hard to get, and some do need the room...but when someone who is young and childless, gets out and sprints into the store like Linford Christie, and clearly doesn't need the space, it really pisses me off.

There'll be cries of "how did we cope without these spaces" but sorry, being a parent is tough enough what is wrong with making having kids a little easier?

PlayOnWurtz Wed 01-Feb-17 18:49:05

I can't be the only person with the ability to transfer a sleeping baby from a car seat surely? As sirzy says you don't need to take the car seat into the shop

Spikeyball Wed 01-Feb-17 18:50:29

There are other people who need them just as much or more than those with young children.
It is inconsiderate to use them without good reason but being arsey with someone who does a good reason is worse.

CherryChasingDotMuncher Wed 01-Feb-17 18:50:37

You could put your newborn in the special trollies with the green baby chairs but there's no way in hell id ever do it, they are always disgusting and sticky or have sick all over them, not to mention uncomfortable and they do not look safe at all.

LittleRed90 Wed 01-Feb-17 18:51:21

I get thoroughly miffed when someone parks in a mother and child spot and they don't have a child. I don't mind if they're a disabled badge holder or elderly (how could I?) but I do agree with gamer... they should stick the mother and child spaces further away!

Kjc105 Wed 01-Feb-17 18:51:24

Playonwurtz really? Where are you going to put a sleeping newborn when needing a trolley full of shopping? Not everyone has a chance to do the shopping without their little ones in tow.

zzzzz Wed 01-Feb-17 18:52:18

Well you can put a small baby in a sling, its cleaner and nicer for the baby, but otherwise I think staying in the car seat is a good solution to a baby that can't sit in a toddler seat.

PlayOnWurtz Wed 01-Feb-17 18:52:55

Clearly you have access to the Internet
Or use the specially designed trolleys for babies (lay a blanket in them if you're precious)

LittleRed90 Wed 01-Feb-17 18:53:06

CherryChasingDotMunche Amen to this! wine

Kjc105 Wed 01-Feb-17 18:55:16

Why should I have to shop online because people don't agree with parent and child spaces?!

msrisotto Wed 01-Feb-17 18:55:36

I don't tend to park in parent and child spaces, not having children myself. But you did choose to have children, inconveniencing yourself in these situations. Luckily the supermarkets want you to spend lots of money with them so they make these allowances but I don't think other people are obliged to inconvenience themselves for you. It's nice when they do though.

PlayOnWurtz Wed 01-Feb-17 18:55:58

You asked how to shop when you have a newborn. I gave you 2 viable alternatives.

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