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To live most of my life in my own head

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LionRichie Wed 01-Feb-17 18:32:25

Today, in between playing with the toddler and doing all the boring house shit that comes with being a SAHP, I've spent maybe 80% of my time fantasising about a life in which I'm kidnapped by a hot 19th century highwayman. Turns out I'm an amazing sword fighter even in a corset and flowing dress.

Does anyone else make up these complex imaginary scenarios or am I going insane?! AIBU to spend most of my time in my own daydreams and not care?

katiegoestoaldi Wed 01-Feb-17 18:35:08

I'm just the same, have been for as far back as I can remember

Sometimes I worry my dream world is making me miss out on life happening around me. But my daydreams also provide a wonderful escape from all the times of stress and trauma that have happened, so I think they've kept me sane aswell

RhubarbGin Wed 01-Feb-17 18:36:42

Same here. Are either of you also introverts by any chance? Goes hand in hand for me in my life.

ShelaghTurner Wed 01-Feb-17 18:36:47

Totally and utterly the same. My head is a fabulous place to live in. The real world not so much. I just get pissed off when I'm forced to come out.

ToTheCrystalDome Wed 01-Feb-17 18:38:45

I too think about naughty handsome highwaymen.... but only in bed wink

LionRichie Wed 01-Feb-17 18:40:12

Yeah def an introvert! Which is interesting when you have a very extroverted, affectionate 2 year old to look after.

Areyoufree Wed 01-Feb-17 18:40:39

I admit nothing.

BalaRua Wed 01-Feb-17 18:40:59

This is so me smile

Knittedfrog Wed 01-Feb-17 18:41:54

I'm an introvert and this is absolutely me.

Mottlemoth Wed 01-Feb-17 18:42:24

Sometimes. I retreat into deaydreams more often when my normal life is mundane. Right now, I have a lot going on but when life is tedious, or when I'm very stressed, my inner fantasy life had provided me with an escape. I have several brilliant scenarios that I revisit time and again. Some can take several days to fully play out. I think it's called maladjusted daydreaming if it's excessive. Not sure I care though - it's helped me cope with things I think would have broken me otherwise.

DJBaggySmalls Wed 01-Feb-17 18:43:38

But look outside and how nasty it all is! Much better in here...<flies off in helicopter>

Emmageddon Wed 01-Feb-17 18:43:55

Sword fighting in a corset? Sounds fun, can I join in? What sort of shoes though? I'm only sword fighting if I can wear Laboutins.

mumofthemonsters808 Wed 01-Feb-17 18:44:06

I'm another one who is guilty of this.

TheProblemOfSusan Wed 01-Feb-17 18:44:35

Yep. In fact it's an excellent coping mechanism for me and massively reduces anxiety. The converse is that it's harder to imagine when I'm anxious so I get more and more anxious..!

When I was a little girl I had two or three entire worlds to be in and I really miss how easy it was to slip away then.

And now it's often, though not always, based on a fictional world and is like having my own little permanent fanfic in my head.

... I really should talk to my counsellor about this...

Kitsandkids Wed 01-Feb-17 18:45:02

I'm always daydreaming. Right now I've got a 'what happened next' scenario to a TV programme I used to watch that I often daydream about. I'm definitely an introvert.

katiegoestoaldi Wed 01-Feb-17 18:45:53

I'm an introvert at heart, though people sometimes take me for an extrovert because in the right company I can be very at ease and chatty and funny. It's not often I feel at ease in other people's company though

FannyWisdom Wed 01-Feb-17 18:47:13

I live full time with Sean Bean, am having a sordid affair with James Martin and have a besotted ex in Jarvis cocker.

Barely have time for my non imaginary life grin

Polarbearflavour Wed 01-Feb-17 18:47:28

Constantly. It mainly involves me and Kit Harington! I always make up a story in my head before bed.

katiegoestoaldi Wed 01-Feb-17 18:47:33

I'm just the same mottlemoth

BigbyWolf Wed 01-Feb-17 18:48:22

I'm the same. As a child, the main thing any teacher ever said to or about me was that I'm a dreamer.

I was going to ask if you're an introvert but that question has already been asked and answered!

You're a totally normal introvert OP grin

TheProblemOfSusan Wed 01-Feb-17 18:48:53

On a related note, I'm currently a little bit obsessed with Jack and Phryne in Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries. I'm half way through season two and REALLY NEED THEM TO GET PROPERLY TOGETHER. So ways in which that can happen are a recurring theme atm.

Also I personally would very much like to bang Jack but that's not quite the same sort of day dream
smile

Its0kcarryon Wed 01-Feb-17 18:49:43

I've done this for years. I was a member of the Osmond family, Joe Elliotts daughter, a unwanted member of the Dingle family to name but a fewblush All happily played out in my headgrin I did try Game of Thrones but I can't decided which side to join, was thinking of mergeing my favourites but it got complicatedconfused it keeps me sane!

Feilin Wed 01-Feb-17 18:50:06

Same here . Love living in my fantasy world . Very introverted too. Struggle socially so this is easier .

BigbyWolf Wed 01-Feb-17 18:51:22

Do you all love reading too by any chance?

TheProblemOfSusan Wed 01-Feb-17 18:51:30

Weirdly I'm not very introverted. I'm not a total extrovert either, definitely somewhere in the middle - sometimes I need people and sometimes they all need to HO AWAY.

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