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To report my colleague for hitting me

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QueenyLaverne Tue 31-Jan-17 21:43:37

Colleague (quite substantial guy) who's job is to bring supplies up to our floor, brought some stuff up. He came to find me, I was on break, to tell me and did so in a very sarcastic way. Not unusual, he is a sarky bastard and we don't like him much, but hey ho we tolerate him and are nice to him. I jokingly pulled him up on it and said something like, 'oh, who do you think your talking to!' 'Laugh laugh' he said something else and I was holding a newspaper which I pretended to hit him with, it tapped him with as we were having banter.
He then comes at me and walloped me on my arm, it really hurt, my arm was still hurting at the end of my shift and I felt really quite tearful, not from the pain, (although it did really hurt) but more because I felt really violated.
Can you tell me if I'm being overly sensitive or if this is unacceptable behaviour and should be reported?
AIBU?

endofthelinefinally Tue 31-Jan-17 21:45:06

He assaulted you.
Of course you should report it.
Shocking behaviour.

rjay123 Tue 31-Jan-17 21:46:02

But you instigated the behaviour, by pretending to hit him?

Derlei Tue 31-Jan-17 21:46:18

Yes speak to your line manager. He doesn't know his boundaries

liz70 Tue 31-Jan-17 21:46:23

shock Do you really need to ask? Of course you should.

RJnomore1 Tue 31-Jan-17 21:46:59

You hit him first.

But when you hit him it's "banter"?

nokidshere Tue 31-Jan-17 21:47:02

You hit him with the newspaper first.

Derlei Tue 31-Jan-17 21:47:18

Rjay, playful hitting with a newspaper is hardly the same as a wallop on the arm with force, Jesus confused

EvilTwins Tue 31-Jan-17 21:47:38

So it's ok for you to hit him but not him go hit you?

Bluntness100 Tue 31-Jan-17 21:47:58

Yes you should, but you do have to accept he will likely say you hit him first and he was simply retaliating.

CookieLady Tue 31-Jan-17 21:48:11

You hit him first. confused

liz70 Tue 31-Jan-17 21:48:16

"But you instigated the behaviour, by pretending to hit him?"

So if I play smacked my DH, that would justify him belting me one? hmm

Redsrule Tue 31-Jan-17 21:48:16

Don't hit people then. Sorry, he might have over reacted but you started it. With someone you were uncertain about. Madness!

Mrsglitterfairy Tue 31-Jan-17 21:48:24

I actually think you are BU. You instigated the 'banter' but then when he gave it back its assault?

rjay123 Tue 31-Jan-17 21:48:32

Derlei - yes, but still would be investigated by work. It could be classed as provocation.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross Tue 31-Jan-17 21:48:48

Did you hit him or just pretend to hit him? It's not clear from your post.

EvilTwins Tue 31-Jan-17 21:49:03

Rjay, playful hitting with a newspaper is hardly the same as a wallop on the arm with force, Jesus

Matter of perspective isn't it? Who knows (other than the two involved) how hard EITHER hit was.

Mrsglitterfairy Tue 31-Jan-17 21:49:32

And he probably didn't mean to hurt you, maybe didn't realise his own strength.

TheCustomaryMethod Tue 31-Jan-17 21:49:47

I was holding a newspaper which I pretended to hit him with, it tapped him with as we were having banter.

If you report him, I would suggest being prepared for him to make a lot of this part of the sequence of events in any subsequent investigation.

BastardGoDarkly Tue 31-Jan-17 21:49:48

You made it physical, he's a wanker for really hitting you, but you did cross that line first.

ilovesooty Tue 31-Jan-17 21:50:09

Of course he shouldn't have behaved like that but I don't think either of you have any awareness of boundaries.

ETanny Tue 31-Jan-17 21:50:13

IMO if you hit someone, they have every right to hit you back.

You say you pretended to hit him in banter, maybe he hit you back as banter too... it was just harder as he was bigger.

Not like he walloped you for asking who he thought he was talking too.

Chalk this upto experience and don't 'pretend' to hit someone with an object in the future.

Isadora2007 Tue 31-Jan-17 21:51:19

Still. He may not have seen it as any different. I'd just avoid him from now on and not do any further banter fullstop.

DrunkenMissOrderly Tue 31-Jan-17 21:51:43

Report him if you like but the fact you hit him first might just back fire on you. As much as you say yours was jokey it might not have seemed or felt that way for him, and in that same token he may too have felt he was just being jokey back.
It's probably more sensibly just to not hit someone first in the first place. Even if you think it's 'banter'.

CaraAspen Tue 31-Jan-17 21:51:48

OP:
He sounds like a humourless thug. He hit you properly; you jokingly biffed him with a newspaper. Absolutely report the creep.

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