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AIBU?

To be feeling a bit pissed off at DH...

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Sumday · 31/01/2017 19:18

Now bare with me and please do understand DH has 1001 wonderful, redeeming and lovely qualities but today he is just annoying me. I have been trying to lose weight, had a long successful run, then plateaued - plan was to kick start it again and been eating healthily - I've lost 2 stone and have 2 stone to go. I also have a very heavy job, its full on through sept - apr especially and I recently was awarded my phd. In the last two hours he has hassled me about what I eat (I picked my sons three left over chips), what I drink (I suggested a glass of wine tonight), how much I earn (with the encouragement/ suggestion I should be earning more after the 'hassle' of the me doing a phd) and now just had a moan about not doing a workout every night of the week. It would be nice to feel that he likes me for how I am right now, right now in this moment! I know he wants me to be healthier (and I've know doubt its linked to health rather than looks), I know he worries about money (hence the job bit - I earn pretty well btw) but days like this I constantly am made to feel I need to be a little bit more. He gets anxious about stuff and I seem to take the brunt of it - he has iron strong will power so he decided a few months ago to stop drinking (anxious about health) - but expects me to jump on board with that, same as when he diet to completely change his diet, etc. I know this isn't his intention, but when I try to talk to him about it he just gets all defensive - he feels he is supporting me, I feel he is badgering me!
Just needed a safe place to rant really.

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Dudess · 31/01/2017 19:24

Rant away; I left the house for work tonight after arguing over a rotating desk tidy. Basically DH doesn't like stuff in the house; I'm a creative teacher entertaining our five year old.

I'm going to my Mum's after work to spin my felt tips.

:-)

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Slightlyperturbedowlagain · 31/01/2017 19:27

YANBU, it's really unhelpful (and if you are anything like me it just makes you want to do the opposite Grin)

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mintthins · 31/01/2017 19:30

YANBU. 🍷

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EZA15 · 31/01/2017 19:31

YANBU, sometimes they can just be annoying frustrating twaddle heads. (3 yo friendly version of the word twat!) I am on a HR course. Tonight is the only session I can attend die to childcare. Where am I currently? At home. Looking after the small person because for one night a week he couldn't be bothered finishing work early (self employed and semi retired so he has that flexibility) so I could go. Freaking twaddle head

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