Yikes that sounds like something out of a teen magazine.
But I'm curious.
I met a guy at work and we had a good laugh at work. He had a girlfriend so to me it was a safe friendship that both of us knew wouldn't go anywhere. He did confide in me that things weren't going well with his girlfriend but he was trying to make things work. While I was friendly I was never flirty so he would not have mistaken my actions for me having interest in him (I hope not anyway).
So our jobs come to an end and we start working in different places. He asks o add me on facebook and we go our separate ways. I did not expect to stay in contact.
A few weeks later he splits from his longterm girlfriend and four months later is dating someone new which he has up on facebook.
I haven't liked any of his posts or initiated any contact as I considered us more work colleagues than friends eventhough we got on great at work.
Anyway, he keeps messaging me on facebook asking me work related things. A typical message will be: Hey. How are you getting on? Have you heard of (insert subject here) assessments? Have you done any?
I will then reply without asking him anything or asking how he's doing. I wondered if this was rude so now I do ask how he is doing back.
He messages about once a fortnight regarding work and asking how I'm doing. I just don't really believe he needs that much help at work. And he has over 20 former colleagues on his facebook that he could message but none of them have heard anything from him. There are two female colleagues who have made it quite obvious they like him but he doesn't respond to them unless they message him and then he only gives a short reply.
So do you think he might fancy me and is trying to initiate contact? I don't usually jump to conclusion like that but I just don't believe he really needs to know the advice regarding his job. Maybe he only means to stay friends. I just think it a little odd.
I never showed him any interest and have since lost 3 stone since I left the job so maybe he is attracted to me now when he wasn't before.But he has a girlfriend since he split from his long term partner. I just don't know.
What do you lot think? If he's trying to chat me up I would rather limit the interaction with him slowly.
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officegall · 29/01/2017 12:53
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ChicRock ·
29/01/2017 13:00
He only contacts you regarding work. I don't see how you can read much more into that 
you're a useful contact for him to have for any work queries.
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