My DH was diagnosed with lymphoma in 2013 and died in 2014. During both the period he was ill, and immediately afterwards, it was extremely difficult for me to continue working. A well as caring for him and then dealing with the huge administrative burden, I have children for whom continuing to attend school every day and 'cope' with normal life was impossible. Alongside all that I had to somehow try to find a way to live with my own grief. And then get out and learn a living - as a freelancer I'd have had no income at all unless I continued to work.
The bereavement benefits I received helped me immeasurably.
- I got a bereavement payment of £2000 which helped cover the immediate few months after his death when I could barely get dressed - let alone work.
- I also got a monthly amount of widowed parents allowance - about £450. (Non means tested but taxable, meaning that as my earnings increased I returned some of this to the government through my tax bill. However, I knew the safety net was there when my earnings dropped again - as indeed they did at one point when one of my children could only manage half days at school.)
I've remarried so no longer qualify - fair enough - but if hadn't I'd have received this until my youngest child left school.
However, the support available for parents who are experience the devastation of becoming widowed after April 1st this year is changing.
- £3,500 immediately.
- £100 per month for the next 18 months.
That's it.
Research by the Childhood Bereavement Network (CBN) suggests 91% of widowed parents will be supported for a shorter period of time than they would under the current system, which can pay out until the youngest child leaves school. It says the typical working family will lose out on more than £12,000, and expects a working parent with young children to lose even more – £23,500 on average. link here
Widowed parents are lone parents without any shared care with an ex partner. Without any maintenance payments from a former partner. And with bereaved, confused and devastated children.
How about it MN? Am I unreasonable to think this change is cruel? And if not, what can I do about it?