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Sober daytime sex in 1 hour. Help

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user1485102013 · 28/01/2017 13:12

Guy I've been seeing for a while. I think today's the day. But it's afternoon and I'm sober. Can I actually do this? Arghhh

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FairyDogMother11 · 28/01/2017 13:15

I think if you don't want to have sex with him sober or in the day time, he's probably not the one for you...

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caffelatte100 · 28/01/2017 13:16

why can't you bring a bottle of champagne or bubbly? Maybe you are driving?
I would postpone this if you don't feel it's right for you.

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HecateAntaia · 28/01/2017 13:17

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SleepFreeZone · 28/01/2017 13:17

Why are you having sex if you don't want to Confused

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Justmuddlingalong · 28/01/2017 13:18

More to the point, do you want to do this?

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Marie38y · 28/01/2017 13:19

Take a deep breath and remember you can back out any time !

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Yukbuck · 28/01/2017 13:19

I totally get you op. It's scary the first time with a new partner. Just take it slow if it feels right 😀

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SanitysSake · 28/01/2017 13:19

Just see how it goes. If it doesn't feel right... don't do it.

How wonderful though to be fully compus mentus for your first time together. Would make it very special... and memorable! ;)

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ClopySow · 28/01/2017 13:19

As long as you want to do it, first sober sex is great

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user1485102013 · 28/01/2017 13:19

Yes I want to. I'm just ridiculously nervous. First time in 2 years and Id usually have a glass of wine to calm my nerves. I don't want him thinking I have a drink problem or something

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Ollycat · 28/01/2017 13:20

As others have said you don't have to have sex - it's your choice

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Ilovetorrentialrain · 28/01/2017 13:21

God I can't have sex after a drink! It... numbs things! Don't worry and if you don't want to have sex with him sober then I'd really consider if this is right. Don't do a single thing you don't want to.

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Mabelface · 28/01/2017 13:22

Just go with it. You won't have forgotten what to do. Once you start kissing and he turns you on, you'll get into the swing of things.

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Birdsgottafly · 28/01/2017 13:22

I understand the nervous thing, but I'd never pissed off of a man I was about to have sex with, needed a drink first.

Just start off slow, then lust will overcome your nerves.

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Ilovetorrentialrain · 28/01/2017 13:22

Sorry x post with you OP. Enjoy. I don't understand the drink thing, can't relate to that but can relate to nervousness. Hope all goes well.

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TheNaze73 · 28/01/2017 13:24

Enjoy, you don't need drink

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AnnieAnoniMouse · 28/01/2017 13:34

Two words: Toffee Vodka.

There's nothing wrong with taking the edge off your nerves, it's not like you plan to get battered!

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meloveyoulongtime · 28/01/2017 13:37

Condoms!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Mummyoflittledragon · 28/01/2017 13:37

Why shouldn't you have a glass or a little bubbly? You don't need to get drunk. Can't you say you're nervous? If you're just about to share your body with the man, you are able able to admit to these understandable and natural feelings.

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TinklyLittleLaugh · 28/01/2017 13:38

First time I had sex with DH it was sober daytime sex. I then realised I'd nevertheless had sex with anyone for the first time when I was sober before.

Bet that's not unusual either.

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Whisky2014 · 28/01/2017 13:39

Yeh but wont he come over then you have drinks and dinner etc. You dont have to get straight to it!

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TinklyLittleLaugh · 28/01/2017 13:39

Never not nevertheless.

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RedStripeIassie · 28/01/2017 13:39

First sober sex is scary but exciting. Once you're comfortable it's much better too Wink

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TheElephantofSurprise · 28/01/2017 13:47

Takes about two minutes to get fully committed to it, if I recall. You'll be fine.

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 28/01/2017 13:49

First time sober sex can be a tad grim - in fact sober sex is rather grim!

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