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Sober daytime sex in 1 hour. Help

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user1485102013 Sat 28-Jan-17 13:12:56

Guy I've been seeing for a while. I think today's the day. But it's afternoon and I'm sober. Can I actually do this? Arghhh

FairyDogMother11 Sat 28-Jan-17 13:15:07

I think if you don't want to have sex with him sober or in the day time, he's probably not the one for you...

caffelatte100 Sat 28-Jan-17 13:16:35

why can't you bring a bottle of champagne or bubbly? Maybe you are driving?
I would postpone this if you don't feel it's right for you.

HecateAntaia Sat 28-Jan-17 13:17:10

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SleepFreeZone Sat 28-Jan-17 13:17:44

Why are you having sex if you don't want to confused

Justmuddlingalong Sat 28-Jan-17 13:18:28

More to the point, do you want to do this?

Marie38y Sat 28-Jan-17 13:19:00

Take a deep breath and remember you can back out any time !

Yukbuck Sat 28-Jan-17 13:19:08

I totally get you op. It's scary the first time with a new partner. Just take it slow if it feels right 😀

SanitysSake Sat 28-Jan-17 13:19:28

Just see how it goes. If it doesn't feel right... don't do it.

How wonderful though to be fully compus mentus for your first time together. Would make it very special... and memorable! ;)

ClopySow Sat 28-Jan-17 13:19:53

As long as you want to do it, first sober sex is great

user1485102013 Sat 28-Jan-17 13:19:59

Yes I want to. I'm just ridiculously nervous. First time in 2 years and Id usually have a glass of wine to calm my nerves. I don't want him thinking I have a drink problem or something

Ollycat Sat 28-Jan-17 13:20:42

As others have said you don't have to have sex - it's your choice

Ilovetorrentialrain Sat 28-Jan-17 13:21:17

God I can't have sex after a drink! It... numbs things! Don't worry and if you don't want to have sex with him sober then I'd really consider if this is right. Don't do a single thing you don't want to.

Madlizzy Sat 28-Jan-17 13:22:01

Just go with it. You won't have forgotten what to do. Once you start kissing and he turns you on, you'll get into the swing of things.

Birdsgottafly Sat 28-Jan-17 13:22:15

I understand the nervous thing, but I'd never pissed off of a man I was about to have sex with, needed a drink first.

Just start off slow, then lust will overcome your nerves.

Ilovetorrentialrain Sat 28-Jan-17 13:22:22

Sorry x post with you OP. Enjoy. I don't understand the drink thing, can't relate to that but can relate to nervousness. Hope all goes well.

TheNaze73 Sat 28-Jan-17 13:24:45

Enjoy, you don't need drink

AnnieAnoniMouse Sat 28-Jan-17 13:34:44

Two words: Toffee Vodka.

There's nothing wrong with taking the edge off your nerves, it's not like you plan to get battered!

meloveyoulongtime Sat 28-Jan-17 13:37:14


Mummyoflittledragon Sat 28-Jan-17 13:37:36

Why shouldn't you have a glass or a little bubbly? You don't need to get drunk. Can't you say you're nervous? If you're just about to share your body with the man, you are able able to admit to these understandable and natural feelings.

TinklyLittleLaugh Sat 28-Jan-17 13:38:37

First time I had sex with DH it was sober daytime sex. I then realised I'd nevertheless had sex with anyone for the first time when I was sober before.

Bet that's not unusual either.

Whisky2014 Sat 28-Jan-17 13:39:06

Yeh but wont he come over then you have drinks and dinner etc. You dont have to get straight to it!

TinklyLittleLaugh Sat 28-Jan-17 13:39:12

Never not nevertheless.

RedStripeIassie Sat 28-Jan-17 13:39:58

First sober sex is scary but exciting. Once you're comfortable it's much better too wink

TheElephantofSurprise Sat 28-Jan-17 13:47:47

Takes about two minutes to get fully committed to it, if I recall. You'll be fine.

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