To think that normal parents

[whattheactualfuckkkk]

Would go batshit if their child was a bully??!! I don't want to say how I'm involved in case other parents are MNers.
Teen girl falling out with a friend at school turned into bullying of her and another friend by a large group (other friend has now changed sides as advised by her parents so she isn't bullied - and don't seem to be phased by how shitty that is)
Live in a small area where everyone knows everyone else - bullied girl has tried to ease back into school but hasn't even managed a full day without it starting again. Head has duly carried out her threats of exclusion/isolation etc today. This is after weeks of phone calls home, letters, blanket ban on mobile phones in school etc.
People have been talking, posting on social media etc and these parents still don't see what is wrong with their precious offsprings fucking abhorrent behaviour!! Even kids in the year group are shocked by how little they seem to care and have said they aren't bothered as long as it isn't their child being bullied!
I mean what the actual FUCK if I got a call from school telling me my kids were bullying another kid so much they actually feared attending school I'd be fucking livid with them and hanging my head in shame!

[whattheactualfuckkkk]

Just to clarify this is very much an area where anyone who isn't considered a local is potentially ostracised. The girl being bullied has lived here less than two years

[WatchingFromTheWings]

I'd go apeshit if I found out my kids were involved in bullying. And they know it!

[whattheactualfuckkkk]

My kids know that too! From what I've been told the school are at the end of their tether - but one of the excluded bunch has been noted as normal tonight out with friends and on social media! The mind boggles!

[TheClaws]

People have been talking, posting on social media etc and these parents still don't see what is wrong with their precious offsprings fucking abhorrent behaviour! Who have been doing the talking and posting? The kids or the adults?

[wettunwindee]

Even kids in the year group are shocked by how little they seem to care and have said they aren't bothered as long as it isn't their child being bullied!

You're listening to teenagers gossiping or is your teen relaying all of this to you?

People have been talking, posting on social media etc and these parents still don't see what is wrong with their precious offsprings fucking abhorrent behaviour!

Maybe they are adults and have avoided this nonsense on social media. What would you like? For the girl's parents post on Facebook publicly decrying their "precious offspring"

Head has duly carried out her threats of exclusion/isolation etc today. This is after weeks of phone calls home, letters, blanket ban on mobile phones in school etc.

You have no idea what's been going on behind the scenes.

From what I've been told

I think you have a lot of growing up to do! Did you read the thread recently about a school's "patronising guidelines" regarding internet usage. Someone (okay, me) said that some parents sadly do need to be reminded how to behave. I suggest you read it.

To answer your question, I would be disgusted if my children were bullies.

[angeldelightedme]

Am confused. How do you know their parents don't give a toss. Most people would certainly be concerned about their DC being excluded.

[LouisevilleLlama]

I think there's a difference between public and private stances

[whattheactualfuckkkk]

The adults are active in the social media scene here as well

[whattheactualfuckkkk]

I'm not listening to a teenager by the way this is a small area where everyone knows everyone else. The girl who's been excluded still has her phone and social media and has been out with friends tonight like I've already said - my kids wouldn't be out if they had been excluded for bullying!

[Astro55]

The issue is - unless you have had a child who's been bullied - you don't understand the full impact that has on a child and their family - iubshrugged ugf iaa arin

[BillSykesDog]

Hmm. Seems very unpleasant and off that all the parents are unhelpful. What's the background? Has your daughter previously been popular and a Queen Bee and the parents perhaps have the impression that she had it coming? (Which is never an excuse?)

[Astro55]

It's shrugged off as part of growing up and that there must be some thing wrong with the bullied child -

I know a few parents who were surprised there little darling has been excluded from school because they can't possibly be mean - they have lovely friends etc


My kids know I wouldn't stand any form of bullying and they would definitely lose all internet access

[whattheactualfuckkkk]

Yeah exactly it's the shrugging off that I can't understand! Exclusion from school is bloody serious