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To be puzzled by her blanking me?!

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Joolsy Fri 27-Jan-17 18:53:38

DD (yr 3) has a best friend and they often have sleepovers/after school playdates etc. They get on brilliantly - never argue, always laughing etc and she's a very sweet girl. Her mum however tends to blank me! For instance today I was stood next to her at school pick up, I said to her "alright?" but she didn't even glance at me - I'm pretty sure she knew I was stood there. Also tonight I dropped DD off at her club and she was chatting to another mum near the door so I had to walk round her and she didn't acknowledge me coming in or leaving. If I start a conversation she will chat but that's about it. She's the opposite when texting as she is always very friendly, and the same when we're collecting/dropping off our DDs at each others houses. I just find it strange that our DDs are so close but she barely acknowledges me and doesn't seem to be like that with others. AIBU?

Joolsy Fri 27-Jan-17 18:54:27

I would add that I've helped her out many times in the past

RedDogsBeg Fri 27-Jan-17 19:00:17

It's odd and I would be puzzled by it too, I'm trying to think of a way to tackle it that won't come across as equally odd and I'm struggling,

Joolsy Fri 27-Jan-17 20:06:51

I'd also add that I would never say no to having her DD as the 2 girls get on so well together

Awwlookatmybabyspider Fri 27-Jan-17 20:16:45

That certainly is odd and down right rude. Its not like she's socially awkward if she talks to other mums.
I really don't know what to make of it
She can't really dislike you because you're good enough for her daughter to go to yours for tea and sleep overs

MsMims Fri 27-Jan-17 20:19:06

Do you mean she will chat to you happily when you're alone together, but not in front of other people?

Cherrysoup Fri 27-Jan-17 20:50:55

So text her about it if she's so keen on texting. Sounds absolutely bizarre!

CaraAspen Fri 27-Jan-17 20:52:01

Is she on the spectrum?

fabulous01 Fri 27-Jan-17 20:57:07

But I wonder

fabulous01 Fri 27-Jan-17 20:57:41

Wonder if she is shy
But maybe just weird

Joolsy Fri 27-Jan-17 20:59:11

Not that I'm aware, CaraA. She talks completely naturally if she does speak to me, alone or with others. She will speak to me if I start the conversation but she'd rarely acknowledge me IYSWIM. I'm a friendly person and would never knowingly ignore someone. I just find it strange that some people can be like that, esp when our DDs are besties and I've had her DD over when she's needed me to. She is very kind to my DD when she goes to stay.

Joolsy Fri 27-Jan-17 21:00:08

No, def not shy! But maybe she's just not the "hi, how are you?" kind of person

Scarydinosaurs Fri 27-Jan-17 21:01:27

She may really struggle with social contact. Some people are much better over text. Maybe she just finds talking really difficult.

Putsomepeasonit Fri 27-Jan-17 21:02:39

She could be on the spectrum. We aren't all easy to spot and don't all tell everyone we know. I wouldn't notice my best friend or mum walking right past me if I was concentrating on a conversation.

Parietal Fri 27-Jan-17 21:04:20

She might have big difficulties with face recognition - google faceblindness. It affects 1% of people but many don't know about it.

PeridotPassion Fri 27-Jan-17 21:04:23

I wouldn't read too much into it if it's just a couple of times.

I'm extremely bad with 'noticing' things or people. My bff (who works with me) has berated me more than once for walking straight past her in the corridor without acknowledging her. People say things like 'Oh I passed you driving yesterday, I beeped and waved!' and I never see them.

If i'm focused on something I'm also fairly deaf to other things...whether it's reading something or watching TV or deep in conversation with someone...dh can sometimes have to say my name two or three times when in the same room as me before I hear him because i'm in the middle of something. My hearing and sight are perfect so I don't have any 'actual' issues.

Anyway, some people are just like that, maybe she's the same?

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