AIBU to ask DH to book his family on premium economy

[bawabod]

My DH went on holiday with a friend last year and his friend booked premium economy seats for what is about approx an 8hr flight. DH and his friend will doing the same trip earlier this year and will be booking the premium economy seats We as a family are due to go on holiday to the same place and I have asked will he book us all including my 2DC on premium economy seats as my tall teenage son particularly finds it uncomfortable in economy my DH has said he will for me and the DC but he will book an economy class for himself I am disappointed that he will travel with his friend in premium but not us is he being unreasonable or am I ? I have a good mind to just say ok I will go with that.

[Creampastry]

why wont he travel in premium with you? Is it because he doesn't want to be with you or the cost means he can't go premium also?

[endofthelinefinally]

Is he just trying to save money?
It is a bit odd, I agree.

[TheNaze73]

YABU. Are you incapable of booking the flights yourself, if you're that bothered?

[Lunar1]

Maybe be can't afford it for everyone.

[SingingInTheRainstorm]

Is the friend a woman or a man? Just wondering why he wants to be separated from you? Fear of being recognised? I really don't know. Sounds odd, but rather than argue say fine whatever you want. It's like he wants to be alone. Was he sitting with you in economy?

[MakeMyWineADouble]

When he goes with the friend he is paying one ticket when he goes with you as a family it would be 4? I imagine he is trying to make it affordable did he not give you a reason?

[bawabod]

No it's a male friend he is the breadwinner and I feel he is being mean but I think he is hoping I will be reasonable and give in to us all going economy

[MrsTerryPratchett]

How old are the two kids?

[bawabod]

18 and 16yrs

[bawabod]

I just feel as it's a family holiday it would be a good start to travel together up till he holidayed with his friend last year we did economy even though I have suggested premium a few times especially as it's a squeeze on legroom for not only my son but himself

[Bluntness100]

He's clearly trying to save money. Bet he changes his mind st the last min. If he wants to fly economy let him. Different with a mate, saving face, flying together if only the two of them etc. Basically dick swinging. With you he can let his meanness be apparent. Just say ok.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

No extra work for you then. I would just let him. If it's PA, he won't get the payoff, if it's not, he can always upgrade later.

[LALALALALAND]

I am confused.

Is he flying with you all and his friend on the same flight?

Have you priced up the flights? PE suggests that it is Virgin as that is there term. Sale on at the moment but ends soon. If you jiggle days of the week then it becomes cheaper.

Where are you flying to that is 8 hours? Dubai?

[bawabod]

No he is doing a separate holiday with his friend

[LALALALALAND]

For 4 adults the difference will be £2k plus- is it worth that much to you?

[LemonyFresh]

I'm confused - is it a family holiday or is he going with a friend and you're tagging along but separate?

[LALALALALAND]

Where are you going on a separate holiday with your friends? Do you fly PE then?

[bawabod]

Yes and no it's the principle or rather the lack of it that pisses me off and I am trying to get a reasonable assessment from you mumsnetters to see if AIBU

[bawabod]

I have done economy with girlfriends only been away the once mainly weekends away here I don't begrudge him the trip away he works hard it's the seats he is prepared to fly on with a friend and then differently his family

[MakeMyWineADouble]

My opinion is yeah you are being unreasonable he has agreed to the upgrade you asked for. You say his tall so I doubt he is sitting in economy for comfort and your kids are old so not trying to push childcare on to someone else. His obviously trying to save some money will giving you what you want.

[BarbaraofSeville]

If three of you are flying PE, the percentage extra cost for one extra person must be quite small - ie a few hundred pounds in a holiday that must be costing several £k.

You should all fly PE together and if that is unaffordable, maybe he needs to think about whether the family can afford for him to have additional holidays by himself with PE flights.

[SheldonsSpot]

I think he's wanting you to say "of doesn't matter, if you're going economy then we'll all go in economy with you".

Don't.

Let him have his passive aggressive sulk, I'll guarantee if you stick to your guns and say you and the kids will still go oremiuyhe'll upgrade himself at some point.

[Crumbs1]

I think I'd put adults in PE and kids in economy. No reason to give children luxury over the adults.

[dowhatnow]

He might be happy to fly economy but it is his friend who wants PE. Also it is for one which is a lot cheaper than 4.

It depends on how much money you have, whether he is being mean or not. Personally I think YABU unless he has pots of spare cash.

[SheldonsSpot]

*premium he'll upgrade...