posting on behalf of my friend, her ex left her unexpectedly whilst she was on maternity mid last year (we think he was cheating but do not have solid proof) he has just told her is is claiming he earns £12,000 a year to csa, it would work out she gets £4 a day for their child. he is self employed and we know he earns more than this, he spends at least £4 a day at starbucks and has the latest unessential technology.
what is annoying me more than anything is he posted on social media he does what he does for his daughter! he is university trained and could earn more than that with no qualifications working at my place on a basic wage! if he did what he did for his daughter surely he should be earning a decent wage to support her rather than doing a low paid job because it is what he enjoys.
i just needed to vent and see if anybody has any suggestions, he sees their child twice a week so she is not withholding access. is he being unreasonable???
AIBU?
soooooooooo fucking mad is he bu
stealmyhappiness · 25/01/2017 15:05
verybitchrestingface - no he works silly hours where he starts work very early, has time off in the day in the city centre to do what he enjoys on his own or with friends then back to work to not return home until his daughter would be in bed, he works weekends too. my friend works in a school so she can spend school holidays with her daughter, she puts her to bed and works hard until midnight - she is the one who does what she does for her daughter 
yes he is being a total dickhead! men these days seem to think that making a child is them being a father! well no mate to be a father you need to provide for you family regardless whats happened and the relationship you have with their mother, you children come first in EVERYTHING!
go and get a better job or stop buy things you don't need and give that money to your kids! people like this make me sick, single mums struggle for no reason all because the man would rather spend money on crap he doesn't need and could damn well go without
why should his kids go without when he doesn't, his kids should be the first thing he thinks about when he gets paid, buying stuff for himself should be the last thing he thinks about!
THE MAN DOESN'T DESERVE HIS KIDS! their are people out there that would love to have kids but can't and then theres these people who have kids but don't care about them. makes me sick!
yes he is being a total dickhead! men these days seem to think that making a child is them being a father! well no mate to be a father you need to provide for you family regardless whats happened and the relationship you have with their mother, you children come first in EVERYTHING!
go and get a better job or stop buy things you don't need and give that money to your kids! people like this make me sick, single mums struggle for no reason all because the man would rather spend money on crap he doesn't need and could damn well go without
why should his kids go without when he doesn't, his kids should be the first thing he thinks about when he gets paid, buying stuff for himself should be the last thing he thinks about!
THE MAN DOESN'T DESERVE HIS KIDS! their are people out there that would love to have kids but can't and then theres these people who have kids but don't care about them. makes me sick!
yes he is being a total dickhead! men these days seem to think that making a child is them being a father! well no mate to be a father you need to provide for you family regardless whats happened and the relationship you have with their mother, you children come first in EVERYTHING!
go and get a better job or stop buy things you don't need and give that money to your kids! people like this make me sick, single mums struggle for no reason all because the man would rather spend money on crap he doesn't need and could damn well go without
why should his kids go without when he doesn't, his kids should be the first thing he thinks about when he gets paid, buying stuff for himself should be the last thing he thinks about!
THE MAN DOESN'T DESERVE HIS KIDS! their are people out there that would love to have kids but can't and then theres these people who have kids but don't care about them. makes me sick!
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