to not want our daughter to have the surname 'Perfect'?

[Brooks10]

Our daughter is due any day. We have decided on her first name, but are struggling with the surname. We are not married. He wants his surname (which I actually don't mind, as in don't mind her having just his surname) but his surname is Perfect. It's not unreasonable to think that's not a great surname is it?? He thinks it's a great surname to have, so which is it?? A bad or good surname to have? I think it's really bad tbh. Mind you, it doesn't sound that great hyphenated either, does it?

[DesignedForLife]

It's not the worst I've heard to be honest.

[FuckOffDailyMailQuitQuotingMN]

It is unusual but if he's manages his whole life with it then I guess she can!

It might not be too bad hyphenated, depends on what it's paired with.

[EllaHen]

Flip a coin. Ultimately, your say as he can't register her without you.

I would like to see Mum's surname given as default though.

[NotThrowAwayMyShot]

An old college friend of my husband has that surname. We thought nothing of it. Your dp isn't related is he? Any famous people in the family?

[TheresABluebirdOnMyShoulder]

I'd give her your surname. I'm led to believe that it's simple enough to change to his in the future, but not so simple to change back should you decide to do so. I was born before my parents were married and had my mum's surname. I always liked being the same as her.

[Latetotheparty26]

There's worse! My sister married a Looney! As in that's his surname. She kept her maiden name and all their children have her maiden name.
Perfect is similar to Best or Darling...unusual but not unheard of.

[DonaldStott]

Unless your surname is 'Almost' or 'Practically', you should be okay with the hyphen.

Seriously though, it does seem a lot would be expected of you though, with that surname, so I know what you mean.

[Brooks10]

Interesting Not, I'll PM you tomorrow (I'm on the app).

With my surname, it sounds like "May Feel Perfect"

[FuckOffDailyMailQuitQuotingMN]

Oh dear

May Feel Perfect isn't good

Sorry!

[harderandharder2breathe]

I've seen worse names but can understand why you want your name instead

[TheMysteriousJackelope]

You could reverse the names 'Perfect May Feel'.

I knew a couple of girls with the surname Perfect at school. I never heard anyone teasing them for it, it never occurred to me that it was odd or terrible either. If your child was a boy you would probably want to avoid the first name Peter though.

[icelolly99]

your husband and his family have 'coped' with their surname then why would you not pass it on to your daughter? It must be nice to say you've found your Mr Perfect

[IhatchedaSnorlax]

I love it as a surname - I'd love to have it. That said, give her your surname if you want to or flip a coin, don't be railroaded into anything you don't want.

[WorraLiberty]

Could be worse.

When I was a teenager I worked with a woman who was marrying a Mr Thick.

And she took his surname!

[WicksEnd]

Call her Princess Polly.
Or Penelope 😁

[pringlecat]

It's the sort of surname that will make or break a person. You either turn it into a positive (it's memorable, you could go OTT with the alliteration e.g. Penny Perfect and be a happy Disney character) or you end up with a child who's bullied into misery (who does Little Miss Perfect think she is?).

I personally wouldn't risk it. I'd give the child my name and I wouldn't double barrel.

[PaintingOwls]

Give her your name as you are not married. If you do get married in the future and decide to take one name together you can do so easily with deed poll.

[RubyRedRobin]

Pippa Perfect, yes, you must call her that!

Keep Perfect, I rather like it.

[Mrspotatohead18]

I know a crump lol. I also know a Devine and Valentine.. How I always envied them!!!

[AutumnalLeaves38]

"When-I-Try-My-Hardest-lt-Is-Entirely-Acceptable-To-Be-Less-Than" as her first name?

[MidniteScribbler]

I don't think it's bad. I've heard a LOT worse.

I'd avoid a first name starting with P though.

[gleam]

What Painting said.

[HeddaGarbled]

Please give her your name. I know so many women who regret giving their children their father's name rather than their own. Some split up, some still together. Think of all the future problems with travelling abroad when you don't have the same name as your children plus having to perpetually correct schools and doctors etc etc. Plus being the only one in the family with a different name.

If you split, you won't be allowed to change her name without his permission. If you marry and change your own name, you can change her name easily.

Please re-think this - it is so important and not to be thrown away so lightly.

[ImpetuousBride]

Sounds a bit like ^Parfitt^ and I love Judy Parfitt so don't see a problem