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fizzingmum Mon 23-Jan-17 22:04:03

So my OH doesn't like our dog. He is an excitable puppy (it was agreed we could get him for the kids) but very loving and gentle with our new baby. All the kids love him and he is my little companion whilst on maternity leave. As a young dog he sometimes has accidents indoors. Tonight he pooped in the hallway. My OH stood in it and dragged it up the stairs. Not an accidental smudge but a deliberate protest against the dog. I feel he has done it on purpose and he denies this. However he only has dog Poo on one shoe so unless he was hopping up the stairs I don't see how this is an accident. It has been ground into the carpet. And it's not the first time, it's the third time. Last time he said he hadn't noticed he had stepped in it until he reached the top of the stairs, ensuring it was on every step along the way (again how unless he was hopping). And he was barefoot! How the hell do you not notice you have stepped in dog Poo when barefoot. I'm not sure if he is punishing me for not letting him out or if he is building a case to get rid of the dog. That won't happen as he is part of the family and I have made that clear. So my AIBU, he has called me crazy and stupid this evening for suggesting this was anything other than an accident. I don't see how it could be anything other than deliberate. AIBU to accuse him of this. Sorry about the photo and the rant.

Domino20 Mon 23-Jan-17 22:07:32

I hope you are making him clean it? The stain on upper stair is clearly caused by using the edge to clean under shoe!

GinIsIn Mon 23-Jan-17 22:09:22

How young is the dog, that he's still having so many accidents indoors?

Also, your OH is a prize twat.

fizzingmum Mon 23-Jan-17 22:09:51

He won't clean it as it's the dog and he won't have anything to do with him. It's deliberate right?

DrivingMeBonkers Mon 23-Jan-17 22:11:25

Has he cleaned it up?

fizzingmum Mon 23-Jan-17 22:12:00

Dog is just over a year. To be fair to him he doesn't have many accidents, the first two incidents were when he was young. Tonight's was not his fault. The kids were distracted with TV homework and I was doing the controlled crying with the baby so his request to go out for the toilet was missed. Not the dogs fault, ours and he isn't in trouble. In fact he might be more welcome in my bed tonight than OH!

DrivingMeBonkers Mon 23-Jan-17 22:12:10

Cross post. Apologies.

PortiaFinis Mon 23-Jan-17 22:13:59

It's bloody weird to do it deliberately. Does he have form for that kind of really screwed up manipulation?

How does he explain it being an accident?

It does look deliberate but it is such a strange thing.

OP if it is deliberate I think that would pretty much be it for me - I don't know how I could get past the so many levels of horror of doing something like that and pretending not to.

cherrycokehead Mon 23-Jan-17 22:15:27

Whether or not it's deliberate, he is being an utter twat. I take it you both agreed to get the dog? Even if he wasn't keen, if he agreed to it then it's not fair for him to now behave like this. What is he hoping to achieve by it? It's not like getting rid of the dog is a realistic option at this point, is it? Would be terribly unfair on you and the dc

steppemum Mon 23-Jan-17 22:15:53

well, I would be saying that if it happens again you will have to get rid of the stair carpet and replace with laminate, at his cost as he finds it so hard to spot the poo and he won't clear it up.

MyHairNeedsASnip Mon 23-Jan-17 22:16:25

Oh my god, that's the sort of thing my sisters ex husband would do. What an arse hole. It looks deliberate.

Thecatmademedoit Mon 23-Jan-17 22:18:16

Sorry OP that certainly looks deliberate to me. It's like a smear rather than if he had just nipped upstairs and not realised.

Very odd to do something like that deliberately though - may he have done it in temper and now is embarrassed so won't admit ?

KanyePest Mon 23-Jan-17 22:20:18

I agree with previous posters, this does look deliberate. At best he's a weirdo, at worst he's being nasty and manipulative.

Shakirasma Mon 23-Jan-17 22:20:59

What was your DH doing while the kids were busy, you were doing CC and the dog was asking to go outside?

fizzingmum Mon 23-Jan-17 22:21:55

Thecat, I think that's probably it. In every other way he is such a nice bloke. As in ridiculously nice. We agreed to get the dog and even got a small breed as he wasn't keen but we did agree together and he is here now, so not sure what he expects. I suppose he didn't expect I would live the dog more gringrin

Tantrictantrum Mon 23-Jan-17 22:23:48

Piss on his pillow. Say it was an accident

Lovelilies Mon 23-Jan-17 22:23:49

Why couldn't he take the dog out when you were busy?

user1478860582 Mon 23-Jan-17 22:27:20

Did he agree to get the dog or was it foisted on him?

fizzingmum Mon 23-Jan-17 22:28:36

He was working when dog needed to go out. Although if he wasn't he still wouldn't have let him out! He just won't accept him.

Thecatmademedoit Mon 23-Jan-17 22:29:37

I love my pup more than my DP too don't worry wink

thisismyfirsttime Mon 23-Jan-17 22:32:05

What do you mean he won't have anything to do with it because it was the dog? If you were ill and so was one of your children would he take the dog out 'for you'? Does he interact with the dog?

Headofthehive55 Mon 23-Jan-17 22:36:58

Maybe he felt pushed to agree to a dog. He clearly isn't happy with having a dog. You sound like you all have too much on your plate to be dealing with a dog to be honest. Much as my family would love a dog we don't have one as I would resent any of my time having to sort anything dog related out.

hmcAsWas Mon 23-Jan-17 22:39:10

I wouldn't expect a 12 month old dog to poo in the house just because he didn't get to go out as soon as he asked - they can hold on for a good long while unless they have a stomach upset. Are you using an odour removing spray to remove all traces of the poo scent - if dogs can still detect the odour after a clean up, they can think it's okay to keep going in the same spot

Yes I do think your OH did this deliberately - and that is frankly appalling. Is he generally quite awful?

fizzingmum Mon 23-Jan-17 22:44:05

He wouldn't take the dog out if we were ill. He wasn't pushed into having the dog, but did say when we got him that he didn't want anything to do with him and wanted nothing to do with his daily care, which is fair enough. It's fine because we are a family of 6 and 5 of us love the pup. We have plenty of time for him and we more than make up for OHs dislike of him.
Don't think he was ill as it was solid (TMI). Well it was before OH squashed it into the carpet anyway!

dollydaydream114 Mon 23-Jan-17 22:44:24

Your OH is an absolute grade A tosser, sorry - is this typical of his behaviour? What a manipulative bellend.

However, no family should ever get a dog unless everyone in the family wants one. It's bound to cause resentment and it's not fair on the dog if one of the adults in the house isn't prepared ever to step in and provide care for it if it's needed.

You say your dog is your companion 'while you're on maternity leave'. What happens to it when you go back to work? Will it just be on its own all day?

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