Hey MNetters,
I'm going to apologise now for the length of this.
Basically things have been ridiculously rough at home for me lately. My DP and I have been together for about 5 years now, and our DD turned 2 in September. We didn't used to fight, but now it's almost constant that we are at each other's throats.
My DP, (let's call him Stanley,) works full time, and he works bloody hard, I am a SAHM - but not really through choice if that makes sense. I love my DD with all my heart, but I miss the company of adults etc. I also miss being able to contribute to bills.
The fights always stem from my loneliness. I can't drive, and we live in the back end of beyond so I'm fairly isolated after he leaves for work. I go for walks around the 'estate' but that only takes up so much time.
Recently I have been trying to tell him how unhappy I am, but I just get shouted down - "I'm at work all day, I would love to be lying on the couch doing nothing." (I don't lie around doing nothing by the way - I have a washing pile that resembles Everest,) "You should be cooking more." "Did you not change out of your pyjamas today?!" Etc etc etc...
It's really starting to wear me down, I already feel like I'm failing at the whole 'mum' thing, and my MIL delights in telling me what I should be doing, while I feel like I'm drowning and I can't see a way out.
Any time I speak to Stanley about this I end up feeling guilty, because I know how hard he is working. And I know it's 'for us'. I guess I need some perspective from other women/mums to let me know if I am being unreasonable to feel so lonely and sad.
Love,
Seal. Xxxx
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seal1990 · 22/01/2017 20:41
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