Hi,
DD is 17 and is a smart girl, doing A-levels and works for a small animal shelter. She doesn't have many friends though, maybe 1 or 2 and seriously hates having to meet up with them, if she has agreed to go somewhere, all I hear is "oh, I have that tomorrow, how annoying" and I'm there thinking how it's supposed to be fun! She doesn't particularly enjoy her age group. She gets on well with her work colleagues (who are older) but still wouldn't ever meet them outside work. She works hard on homework and makes sure everything is done, helps around the house and I could really ask for more, but I'm worried about her.
Can I just say, I'm not concerned that she's going to become a young mum, there is no way, she says full well that she doesn't want to be a mum right now. However, she has this book (that she happily shares with us all) about her future plans. When I first heard of it, I was expected little goals she wants to reach, etc. Oh no, it's full of child's full names, including how she wants the surname, what's schools she will consider, what clubs she will start them in, it's very detailed and a bit... odd? I don't want it to sound like I'm trying to offend her, but I'm really not understanding it. I appreciate some girls like to plan baby names and weddings, I did! But it's how she has the cost of clubs they will attend (swimming) etc.
Could someone please tell me if this is a form of OCD? It wouldn't surprise me as she was having CBT when she was 12 for something different, but still obsessive.
She writes down the cost of school uniform (and where she will get it), where their hair will be cut, how much shopping will be, it actually really upsets me because it's like her life is just being wasted doing all this unneeded planning, she shouldn't be doing it at her age.
Any advice would be amazing, thanks ever so much.
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AIBU?
DD is already planning what school her children will go to, etc. Please help! She's only 17!! AIBU to think it's a bit concerning?
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Flicxs · 21/01/2017 14:35
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