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To think a couple shouldn't count as one share?

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Mimicat44 Fri 20-Jan-17 11:37:13

I recently spent a weekend with two friends who are a couple. I'm single with a small baby. I paid half of the accommodation cost and when we went shopping for food I paid half. Now that I think about it though, I think everything should have been divided by three, so a share for each adult rather than them counting as one. AIBU?

Mimicat44 Fri 20-Jan-17 11:37:44

That's a weekend in a rented cottage by the way!

mouldycheesefan Fri 20-Jan-17 11:38:49

Yes amongst our friends we would have split it between 3

zelda200 Fri 20-Jan-17 11:38:58

Yes, I agree with you. YANBU.

Whenever I've been away with friends, it's divided by adults, not by couple.

BoobleMcB Fri 20-Jan-17 11:39:04

Definitely agree with you. Too late now though

Sonders Fri 20-Jan-17 11:39:12

Who suggested half each? I would think it's obvious to go thirds on food but maybe 60/40 on accommodation (guessing you had one bedroom each, that is).

YellowstoneRoses Fri 20-Jan-17 11:39:15

I'd expect to split food 3 ways but if you had a room with baby and they had one together then a 50:50 accommodation split sounds fair to me.

PuppyMonkey Fri 20-Jan-17 11:40:34

Ooh I like these ones.

I think you should have paid half for the accommodation since you had one bedroom and (I presume) they had one bedroom. But yes, I think the food should have Been a three way split - unless your baby eats loads, in which case, a four way split.

Cherryskypie Fri 20-Jan-17 11:42:25

Half for accommodation, a third for food.

Oldraver Fri 20-Jan-17 11:42:26

Maybe splitting the cottage cost in half as I presume you had two rooms ?

But food and everything else should br split by persons.

I had a couple friends who did this. The wife prided herself on 'never taking her bag/purse out anywhere', so we always ended up in two rounds rather than three... It wasn't until we were going on holiday as a five that one of the people bought up the subject of the couple not being a 'one'...they had wanted to split the taxi and other costs as four

BrieAndChilli Fri 20-Jan-17 11:43:59

Accommodation should be split by room
Food split per person (unless you included nappies and milk and baby food etc in which case baby should count too)

FlyWaxSleepRepeat Fri 20-Jan-17 11:44:16

I'd have expected to pay Accommodation 50/50, but food split between three.

Bluntness100 Fri 20-Jan-17 11:44:21

I'd agree, half for accommodation, a third for food, although were you buying baby stuff in there too?

To be honest though if they were good friends I wouldn't stress about it.

Mimicat44 Fri 20-Jan-17 11:48:30

Most people are saying half for accommodation and a third for food (my baby's on milk that I bring) which sounds right to me. I'd never argue though if they expected half for food as it's not worth any awkwardness, they're very good friends. Thanks!

NeeNahh Fri 20-Jan-17 12:11:47

I remember going to something similar as with a larger groups as a single person with no kids and someone tried tried to split by families which meant they wanted me to pay the same as a family of four! The family of of 4 spoke up and said it was ridiculous and we split it more fairly. I don't think it is always deliberate but I am surprised that one of the couple didn't twig that one person would eat less than two and insist they pay more.

EssentialHummus Fri 20-Jan-17 12:12:21

Half for accommodation, third for food.

PlushVelvet Fri 20-Jan-17 12:14:12

50/50 accommodation; thirds on food. They were taking the mick on that.

CripsSandwiches Fri 20-Jan-17 12:15:03

I can understand paying half for the accommodation (assuming one double bedroom each) but the food and everything else should obviously be split 3 ways (baby obviously doesn't eat much).

Squiff85 Fri 20-Jan-17 12:15:29

Accomdation I'd say between 2, but food 3

ImperialBlether Fri 20-Jan-17 12:20:50

This comes up time and again, with couples acting as one unit in a round, in taxis etc. I don't understand how anyone can think that if three people go for a drink, the two who are sleeping together should buy one round then the other person buy the next and so on. It doesn't make any sense at all. And the taxi, too. Just because they get out at the same address doesn't mean they only pay for one person - what if they were flatmates or neighbours? Surely nobody would think that applied then.

ZouBisou Fri 20-Jan-17 12:26:54

Definitely food should have been divided by three.

RE the accommodation, I guess it could be argued both ways. If I was part of the couple though, and especially assuming we as a pair were better off than a single person with a baby, I'd think have suggested either thirds or 60/40.

Lemon12345 Fri 20-Jan-17 12:29:47

Assuming the rooms were fairly equal and the cost to start with was 1 set price for the place and not per person (with babies usually free) then I'd split the accommodation 50:50.
If the accommodation was per person though then obviously they got a cheaper deal for having you come along and pay half... so it sort of depends on the situation.

As for meals, if you all ordered similar things then yeah it really should've been 1/3s. Otherwise that's really not fair. In future I'd suggest just putting the cash down that you intend to pay, so say your meal was £12 + £1.50 for a drink, then put down £15 so an okay tip included.
I personally don't like splitting meals out like this, as if I order something expensive I feel guilty and if I'm trying to eat cheap to save money then it's not fair having to pay towards someone elses. I think paying for what you got + a fair tip is better all around (because I'm usually skint).

Allthewaves Fri 20-Jan-17 12:33:44

Hmm on fence. If couple shared a room then 50/50 split. They should have put in more for food

Berthatydfil Fri 20-Jan-17 12:37:05

Re food and drink - Do they have one plate and 2 lots of cutlery or one glass and 2 straws?
If not then it's ridiculous to split it 50/50.
Accommodation yes as long as you're able to use shared facilities equally or don't get consigned to a small box room while they get a master bedroom with an en suite etc.

KitKat1985 Fri 20-Jan-17 12:48:49

I'd say assuming you had a room each (and your baby wasn't in a separate room) then accommodation should have 50/50. The grocery bill should have been split three ways unless you were buying formula / nappies / baby food jars in the shop, in which case I would have gone 50/50 on that too.

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