to think my manager shouldn't decide how I spend my personal time?

[AuntJane]

Two things at work this morning.

Earlier this week I was asked if I would help out another section for two days a week for a couple of months, and agreed. I need training to do the other job, and I was told this morning they want me to go to another office 200 miles away to do this - for two consecutive days (so away from home overnight). My manager looked at my work diary and told the other manager what days I could do without consulting me. I have a play rehearsal the night I should be away, so said those dates didn't suit - she wasn't happy.

Someone in the office us leaving next month. I know her to talk to, but wouldn't say we were close - but my manager knows her quite well. My manager has decided to arrange a farewell lunch at a nearby restaurant, and knows I have a discount card for that restaurant - so has told me I am going so that the group can get the discount - without asking if I want to use my lunch break that way, not to mention paying for a meal out. She thinks it's unreasonable of me to say no.

[WingsofNylon]

I agree, it is your time. While you should try to make the training she should have checked with you.

[Allalonenow]

Explain to her the details of getting her own discount card for the restaurant, tell her that you won't be going to the event.
Tell her that she was wrong to agree a training schedule without consulting you first, but say that you will bring your diary in ASAP and together you can agree training with the other branch.

Make a full clear record of these events and how you dealt wih them and bring it up at your next annual review.

[AuntJane]

MNHQ - Please delete - another accidental duplicate thread (damn phone!)