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To leave a ten yr old home alone for an hour

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Florabella Thu 19-Jan-17 07:01:52

My younger child is starting a new activity and my (newly) 10 yr old doesn't want to get dragged along as it will mean hanging around outside for half an hour. It's a ten minute walk away. She is very sensible and I'm sure she would be ok at home, but i still feel a bit worried (maybe worried that I would be judged!) would you do it?

HelenDenver Thu 19-Jan-17 07:02:43

Yes, I would.

Lilaclily Thu 19-Jan-17 07:03:16


Msqueen33 Thu 19-Jan-17 07:03:41

My friend lets her ten year old cycle a lot of places and also take her eight year old sister to the park (I'm a bit 😐 On that one). If she is sensible and it's very local why not.

MirandaWest Thu 19-Jan-17 07:03:51

I'd do it.

KERALA1 Thu 19-Jan-17 07:04:19

Yes. They'll be walking to secondary school alone in a few months. We are gradually cutting the apron strings.

Wineloffa Thu 19-Jan-17 07:04:28

I would too.

Twooter Thu 19-Jan-17 07:04:30

Yes, but go over 'the rules' first. Eg only answer phone if it shows your number, no answering door to anyone.

oklumberjack Thu 19-Jan-17 07:06:49

Yes I would and I do (with my ds whose 10).

He will happily make himself a cuppa, play minecraft or watch a DVD and barely notices when I come back! He knows how to use the phone and has my mobile number. He's not allowed to answer the door,

DowhatIwanttodo Thu 19-Jan-17 07:06:54

Dd is nearly ten and I am preparing her to do this. We have discussed what she would do if someone knocked the door or if there was an emergency. Depends how sensible the child is of course. There is no way I could have left my other daughter at that age.

Florabella Thu 19-Jan-17 07:09:00

Thanks - nice to have the reassurance that others would do it too. I think because I will be the first of any mums I know to do it, it made me feel unsure. She is ultra sensible, so no worries about that

ParadiseCity Thu 19-Jan-17 07:10:57

Definitely. My 10 yo has been left since age 9.

Rules are:
Ignore the doorbell. Let the phone go to answer phone and only pick up if it's me/DH. No cooking, kettle or chopping. And of course we all know the fire drill.

GinIsIn Thu 19-Jan-17 07:12:09

Yes, I would with certain ground rules eg. Don't answer the door, no cooking, no leaving the house etc.

PenelopeFlintstone Thu 19-Jan-17 07:12:14

Millions of 10 year olds do it after school every day.

Downstairspoo Thu 19-Jan-17 07:12:36

Yes I have left my 9 yr old for up to an hour since she turned 9. She can Skype text me from the iPad and we usually check in together. She is v sensible also. Rules are not to answer door. She would go to a neighbour in an emergency,

DMCWelshCakes Thu 19-Jan-17 07:16:47

Yes if she is sensible and knows what the rules are.

Gileswithachainsaw Thu 19-Jan-17 07:23:09

Yes definitely

UsedToBeAPaxmanFan Thu 19-Jan-17 07:44:52

It depends on how sensible your dd is, but I would say most 10 year olds are more than capable of being left for an hour or so.

Mine were both left from this age. We had rules about no cooking, not answering the door etc.

The only issue we had was one Sunday, when ds1 was 10, he didn't want to come to church so we agreed he could stay home, he'd stayed home alone before. Somehow he became quite convinced that he could hear someone moving around in the house (thought it was a burglar) and hid under the dining table, tried to phone me but I had phone switched to silent because we were in church. He was beside himself when we got home which made me realise that maybe he wasn't as ready as I thought he was. I also learned to put my phone on vibrate and have it in my pocket so I could answer him in future!

Trifleorbust Thu 19-Jan-17 07:59:17

Provided she is sensible and knows exactly where I am and what to do in a crisis, I would leave her for 30 minutes. Not much more.

Artandco Thu 19-Jan-17 08:01:55

I would. You being just 10 mins away is good prep for when they are further away at secondary.
Leave with basic mobile incase needed, and rules.

Craigie Thu 19-Jan-17 12:26:00

Yes, but with clear rules. Don't answer the door or the phone, and have a plan for what to do in an emergency. Have done with my 10 year old. It does help if they have a mobile and you are able to contact them.

TheNayway1984 Thu 19-Jan-17 12:31:39

I think if you feel your child is sensible enough then it's totally your decision! Maybe do a test run as in nip to shop for 10 mins and actually knock the door to check she definitely doesn't answer it! Might reassure you a little bit, and I agree with others at secondary school most children make their own way which involves many more dangers yet as parents are aren't judged on that? Hope it goes well 😀

caffelatte100 Thu 19-Jan-17 12:41:13

Yes, I wouldn't really hesitate at 10 years old. I leave mine when I go out in the evening (with 12 year old brother) and my 10 year old walked to school alone at 6.

JaquieFromTheBlock Thu 19-Jan-17 12:42:20

Depends on the child but yes I would have with mine

DarkAngel1984 Thu 19-Jan-17 12:45:26

When we first moved to my parents current house I was 10 and had moved to the local school but my sister couldn't get a place for a few months. My mum used to leave me and I used to walk myself to school in the mornings. It was one the road but I would have been left for over half an hour on my own while she took my sister to school. It does really depend on how sensible your 10 year old is. If you feel confident then do it

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