to think the word fat isn't offensive?

[Royroy]

People are getting very upset by terms such as fat or fattist.

Surely fat isn't any different to the word overweight?

Is it OK to use the word fat if the fat person themselves uses it?

[Soubriquet]

Well it's not a very nice thing to say is it?

And if someone is offended by being called fat then yes it's an offensive word

[PeanutJuice]

I think it is offensive as it is reducing the individual to one component of themselves. Yes they may have "fat" on their bodies, extra fat at that but they themselves are not solely "fat"
When a loved one says to me "I am fat" I think, you may have extra unwanted fat on your body, but you are not just made up of fat..
I'm struggling to articulate it exactly..

[xStefx]

I get called skinny, anorexic etc .... Because im underweight. The word skinny isn't particularly nasty but its usually with a nasty judgmental look. I wouldn't call someone fat

[Soubriquet]

With you there steff

I'm the butt of every joke

"Oh sou you have some cotton having from the dress. Oh no wait it's just your legs"

Ha ha fucking ha

[witsender]

It depends on the intention tbh. As a size 18 at the moment I carry a lot of fat, so technically the term doesn't bother me...I'm still happy with myself.

[CripsSandwiches]

I'm with HecateAntaia. I've always been on the slim end of healthy weight but I'm constantly horrified at what overweight friends have to put up with. usually the word fat is accompanied by judgement. Why not just use the word overweight if you're unsure how to refer to it.

[ShotsFired]

I use it about myself. I am fat.

I don't particularly like it, but not saying it won't make it any less true.

I am more about the stupid coy alternatives - buxom, curvy (especially curvy, I hate it!), sturdy, larger, fuller-figured etc.

So "fat" is the least bad option for me.

[Manumission]

Not this again.

The word is less important than the attitudes surely!

[wanderings]

Here's an example. Remember that radio advert which went like this:

(Man yelling into a mobile, during a wedding) "hello!!!! What?!!! I'm in Glasgow!! Cousin's wedding!!!! No, the fat one!!!!"

"Fat" seeming to be cousin's distinguishing feature. That's an example where it's not so good.

[CanarySong]

It's not the word itself, it's the sneer behind the word.

I get called "skinny" or "thin" and sometimes it's clearly said with an audible sneer (if such a thing is possible ).

[FlyingElbows]

It's not the word it's the intention behind it. "Gay" is a word, "Ginger" is a word, "specs" is a word but if I call you a fat, gay, ginger speccy four eyes then that's insult bingo!

[NickyEds]

YABU, it's almost always, in my experience, said in a pejorative way. I think if there was someone with two family members of identical size, only the one they didn't like would ever be called fat.

[Bluntness100]

"Fat" seeming to be cousin's distinguishing feature. That's an example where it's not so good.

[unlucky83]

I'm fat and I don't think there is anything wrong with using the word. We use the word tall and thin and short to describe ourselves and others - so why not fat?
I saw a documentary a few years ago about a clinic for (morbidly) obese children.
One of the consultants used the word fat and apparently had had several complaints from parents brought against her for using it.
But she said she found often the parents were in denial about how big their DCs actually were and how serious it was. Up to that point everyone dealing with them had been using gentler terms -or even clinically accurate terms- but she said telling them their child was fat was one of the best ways of getting through to them - it upset them, they didn't like it but that was partly because they couldn't pretend to themselves any more ...
And it did actually seem to work - mostly success stories but there was one parent even that didn't really get through to ...their child ate nothing but junk - biscuits, crips, sweets and fizzy juice. Filled up on junk then refused meals (which were actually not too bad health wise). They stopped most of the junk, the child was eating proper meals and losing weight...all good. But when they went back 6 months later, the child was back on the junk, weight rising again - the mother said she couldn't bear making her child sad by not giving her the food she liked and she was refusing to go back to the clinic . I do wonder what happened in the end...if someone managed to help that child (and the mum) ...
(The whole program was quite shocking in places (and I don't think it was on Channel 5 )

[DebbieDownersGiveItARest]

I am fat too and also cant see any issue with it. I have a very realistic view of how over weight I am and I cant hide it or deny it and nor do I want too - its simply fact.

[TheNaze73]

It's all going to be down to interpretation & the spirit it is intended.

Can't see there being a definitive right or wrong

[ailPartout]

I think it's similar in many ways to the n word.

Everyone will know what you mean.

It will make most people who hear it feel uncomfortable.

It can be or has been reclaimed by the group it describes. Their use of the word is much more debatable and nuanced.

It is needlessly mean and unkind given its many negative connotations and the fact there are politer alternatives.

[10stonestolose]

I'm fat, but I also have many much nicer tangible and not so tangible features, so I'd be pretty offended if that was the only word someone could think of to describe me. I'd prefer 'the gorgeous one with the long dark hair' obv!

[SadTrombone]

Depends. I wouldn't use it about someone else (in case they dont feel the same way about the word as me) but I use it about myself.

What pisses me off no end is when I mention it in passing as part of an anecdote or whatever and someone interrupts me with:

"You're not fat!" Or,even worse, "You're not fat - you're gorgeous!!"

A) Yes I am - not only by my own standard but by any standard going - getting on a plane recently and not needing a seat belt extension was a fist-pump worthy moment.

and

B) Fat and gorgeous are not mutually exclusive! I scrub up well thanks very much!

It's just an adjective!

[Persemillion]

I'm with ShotsFired.

There is nothing inherently stereotypical about the words fat and skinny, but the alternative words sound quite condescending essentially saying the same thing.

[CarterUSM]

As others have said the word itself isn't offensive and can be an accurate adjective but the context and tone it is said in is key.

At a friend's party recently her daughter called out 'fattie' followed by 'you're a fattie' when I hugged her goodbye. To me that was as an insult and therefore offensive. Particularly as neither mum nor child saw the need to apologise.

[Sugarlightly]

I'm fat and will refer to myself as such, but find it difficult to think of a situation where I would be comfortable with someone else calling me it to my face.

If you're trying to say that the word fat shouldn't upset someone, you are wrong. I've never heard "fat" used in a positive sense when talking to someone else.

If you're saying that the word "fat" itself isn't offensive then yeah obviously; In the same way that "fuck, shit, cunt" are words and not offensive.

The word fat is intrinsically offensive because it's always seen as a negative characteristic. I think that skinny doesn't have the same culturally negative connotations, but can be used in an offensive way.

[CaoNiMa]

It is really nothing like the N word.

Until "fat" people have been enslaved, subjugated, and suffered bigotry for multiple generations, it's not like the N word at all.

Jesus.