So I am foolishly thinking about DC3. Someone stop me please. One thing that I feel is holding me back from trying for a hat trick (there are so many good reasons) is gender weirdness. Not how I feel, but how other people feel and their weirdness, I guess.
I have DS1 and 2, they are the best kids I can imagine. I love having boys, to the point that I think I might want to shoot the first (or 100th) person who did the 'oh poor you, three boys!' if I had another boy. I seriously know people who talk about women with 3 boys in hushed, horrified solemn tones, as if this is literally the most tragic thing to ever befall someone. Also as if the women themselves have been irresponsible, fecund and thoughtless in bringing a family of 3 brothers into being. I'm not exaggerating this one little bit. It's ridiculous.
On the same note I am not sure I would be able to handle having a DD for exactly the same reason. I could not bear to expose my two adorable DS to the crapola people would spout about 'oooh you must be so relieved!' 'A girl, thank goodness!' as if the kids I already have are not the biggest blessing there is. As if any kids regardless of gender are not basically the best gift in the world.
I'm sure there will be plenty of replies of 'don't let them bother you/why do you care what other people think/have the family you want', but frankly, they would piss me off. They did when DS2 was born ('oh poor you' - erm, no, lucky me, you dickhead).
I guess my AIBU is, in the context of there being a number of pros and cons to having a 3rd DC, AIBU to let other peoples gender weirdness count as a reason not to do it? Surely IABU. Just tell me how much.
AIBU?
Gender weirdness. This is so U
monkeymamma · 18/01/2017 14:24
YABU. I have 2 boys who i adore and got pregnant with a third baby. I was secretly hoping for a boy for all the reasons you said. Then i found out i was expecting a girl and got lots of relieved comments, which was irritating and at first i was secretly disappointed 
. But she is here now and oh. my. god. we all love her so much. Especially the boys. She is worth every single stupid comment (which we all bat back at people). If she had been a boy i would love her the same and tell everyone to fuck off. I do get defensive of my boys, but i would never let peoples comments stop me having as many children as i want.
You are desperately clutching at reasons not to have a third, aren't you? Yes you are. You know you are.
Go on, just do it. You know you want to. One more won't make any difference 
I think its a bad reason not to have another child
However
I was very relieved when we tried for dc3 that i already had a boy and a girl so people wouldnt say "oooh are you trying for a (insert sex here), third time lucky"
Soubriquet 
OP People are mental but don't let that put you off. How old are your DC?
I'm pregnant with number 2, finally after over a year of IVF and miscarriage. People just want to know if I would prefer it to be a boy or a girl. I know it's innocent enough, but do they really think I give a flying f* after what we have been through?!
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I read your post whilst watching The Tudors OP.
My first thought was "how times change" . You'd have been an absolute hero for "producing" three sons back then 
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Seriously though, I was in your position and I'm sure nobody believed me when I said that I would be genuinely happy to have a third boy. I also had a lot of the "oh you must be so relieved, a girl to complete your family" comments when DD arrived.
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