To think I need to be more interesting?(10 Posts)
Well I'm not U as I do but will get no nonsense answers here.
I'm a SAHM out of necessity to a complex 19 mo. He's great but we don't do much by way of baby groups etc as he doesn't really like other children! He's spent a lot of time in hospital so I'm trying to re-socialise him. DH works standard full time so out 8-6 pm Mon-Fri.
I just feel like I have nothing to say to him or anyone that doesn't start of Master Gee did this / had this / ate this / hated this.
I see friends or go to the occasional movie but hardly exciting.
I'm doing a 5k colour fun obstacle course in May as that really is as good as it gets for 2017.
How do I get back who I am and be interesting again, able to relate to other adts and hold intelligent discussion that isn't on feeding tubes or poo?
It sounds like you have your hands quite full already.... I find Futurelean online courses good because they're free, you can pick them up and put them down as you like, and you don't have to leave the house.
Other than that, you could sign up for a 10k in autumn, but I think a more relevant question is what interests the adults you want to relate to - what would you like to have intelligent discussions about?
I only talk to other moms / childhood friends who love my son / DH so I they just accept all the baby talk haha
I've signed up for two courses with them but picked two that would possibly help my son so still more baby talk... Play therapy and SEND.
DH suggested a "fun" class but I'd have to probably meet him in town with DS to get anywhere on time and I'm not really in a position to pay for much. Need to join a fitness class, would talking about star jumps be more exciting than poo and DS identifying a pig three times in a row?
I used to have intelligent conversations about the world, ethics (never really politics) etc. My brain functioned intelligently back then
Where did you learn about the world or inform your ethics before? Could you start with 5 mins a day reading something interesting on a touch that you like that isn't baby related or even... Can't believe I'm about to suggest this... The news?
But actually people love to about themselves so you could just focus on trying to discover more about other people. Then relay the juicy bits to DH ;)
I think you've list yourself a little in being a mom at home, and missing the regular mind stimulation. You can probably do with some time for yourself and developing your interests. Do you have parents (or in laws) that could babysit occasionally? Can your DH to look after DS during weekends?
There are lots of things to do, you could always try Meet up.com - there you can find local groups and events (a lot of them free of charge) of virtually any field of interest. All you have to do is show up, and you can meet a lot of like minded people and new friends.
Or you could have a look around, see if there are any clubs or classes offered in your local community.
Or volunteer somewhere you would enjoy (e.g. women's shelter, church, charities)
A very small thing but I try to listen to Radio 4 every day, just to hear some intelligent discussion. I like desert island discs, women's hour, more than the politics stuff, lots of programmes about moral issues, people's lives etc. Easy to have on while you're pottering around or in the car., just five minutes is enough to hear something interesting and get me thinking.
In laws have him a couple of hours on a Sunday every few weeks whilst me and hobby have a drink (so we can talk about... The baby!!) bit as he's tube fed they can't have him for longer than the gap between feeds (so 3 hours).
Might subject DS to radio 4!!
DH would def have DS whenever I wanted I just don't know what to do. I used to go to Uni then did volunteering with interesting vibrant people who had opinions on everything (often contrary to each other!) so osmosis I guess and a need to keep up
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