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AIBU?

to be cross with nursery for giving her crisps for tea?

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fibernie · 23/02/2007 17:57

I just changed my 14month old DD to the childrens menu at nursery (as opposed to the older baby menu), as they had suggested she would prefer it. She is a finger food eater and refused most of the sloppier main meals.
She came home tonight and her tea was listed as 'tuna sandwiches with crisps'. There was no mention of crisps on the menu, so I'm a bit cross about it. I don't expect I'll manage to withhold junk from my daughter forever, and I am of the believe that everything in moderation is fine. However, why do I feel a bit peeved that nursery gave her crisps. I've done my very best to avoid excess salt and junk in what I've fed her. I think I just feel it should be our decision as parents as to when she gets her first taste of 'junk'.
How should I broach it with them? Or am I just being daft?

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bobsyouruncle · 23/02/2007 18:07

No i'd be a bit peeved too. In fact I'm annoyed when my dd gets crisps for snack at nursery - and she's 4!? There are so many healthier alternatives - salad & yogurt with the tuna sandwich would be fine for example. I always think crisps are such a lazy snack to give - and it's only me thats allowed to give dd & ds lazy junk food snacks not the nursery!?

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funnypeculiar · 23/02/2007 18:18

I'd be annoyed - they just don't NEED salt at that age ...(oh indeed any age) - ds is 3 and only gets crisps at other people's parties! I'd say something, and give nursery a list of foods you don't want your lo to have.

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DeviousDaffodil · 23/02/2007 18:23

I don't have a problem with my kids eating crisps in moderation.
I eat them all the time.
Don't see the problem myself.

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wurlywurly · 23/02/2007 18:29

I would be peeved as well, If you choose to give crisps to your child then thats your choice. Maybe they just assume that all kids are given crisps with a sandwich?? I would ask them on monday if this is standard practice.

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nearlyfourbob · 23/02/2007 18:32

Say something now, because it's a slippery slope. Crisps have no place on a children's menu, they are a treat item. Carrot sticks would have been better with a sandwich.

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smeeinit · 23/02/2007 18:35

tuna sandwich and crisps?! is that all she had for tea?
im a cm and offer much more choice than sandwich and crisps!

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FrannyandZooey · 23/02/2007 18:37

Crisps for a 14 month old is just utter shite

no you aren't being daft

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Snaf · 23/02/2007 18:40

How on earth can a nursery justify giving crisps to a 14-month-old? Lazy, lazy, lazy.

I'm partial to a bag of crisps myself but they are not suitable food for a child of that age (well, a baby really).

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fibernie · 23/02/2007 18:46

Thanks all
Part of the problem is that she's such an independent eater she won't eat the menu designed for her age. I suspect most of the other kids her age are still on their 'tweenie' menu, which is lots of stews and casseroles and sauce based dishes.
However, the more I think about it, the more I think it's shocking that they think is't more acceptable to feed older children crisps and the like.. just because they are older?
She had quorn curry for lunch but refused it. This is fairly common for DD at nursery refuses the main meals but eats the fruit - I guess I must just be an excellent cook !
I probably will offer her crisps as a treat at some point - if I don't she'll just eat them behind my back when she's older! However, like you said bobsyouruncle, I want it to be MY choice!

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amidaiwish · 23/02/2007 19:09

my DDs are at nursery (DD1 for 2.5 years now) and they have never ever been fed either crisps or chocolate. (well chocolate cake for pudding sometimes but that's all). you should be cross.

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edam · 23/02/2007 19:12

Crisps for 14 month old? Barking and dangerous in terms of salt. Look up the Food Standards Agency's guidelines - think it's eatwell.gov.uk or google the agency.

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NAB3 · 23/02/2007 19:15

I know just how you feel. My 3 year old had syrup the other day when they had pancakes and I wouldn't have chosen to let her have that at this age. If I say anything I feel like they think I am far too fussy and not living in the real world. There is a lot of cancer in my family and I do believe what you eat has a huge effect on your body. I would tell them she isn't to have them again, what other junk food are the kids given that aren't on the menu?

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gorgonzolasouffle · 23/02/2007 19:15

but she probably only had about 3 crisps and it wont hurt her!

I would chill out about it myself.

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Mercy · 23/02/2007 19:19

I think I would have assumed it's a one-off - as crisps aren't on the menu - but I would speak to the manager if you are unhappy about it.

What is the menu like btw? Qourn curry also seems an odd choice for children tthat young

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amidaiwish · 23/02/2007 19:20

but it's not about whether she should eat crisps or not (mine eat them at home when we have friends over quite a bit...)

it is just that nursery shouldn't be feeding them crisps. at all. it should all be nutritious wholesome food. as parents we are allowed to bend the rules, they are not. it is their job.

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gemmiegoatlegs · 23/02/2007 19:25

maybe they were the baby equivalent of crisps, u know like the organix carrot stick ones that are like wotsits without any flavour

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clairemow · 23/02/2007 19:50

I think you're right to be a bit annoyed, and I'd say something to them. You might find it's the organix type ones, and I wouldn't have a problem with them.

I was amazed recently when a friend of mine said her daughter's nursery took the children out to the sweet shop and bought them all sweeties. I'd have been cross at that too.

Having said that, our nursery does give cake if there's a birthday, and I don't have a problem with that at all.

Have to say I do think that stopping children having anything "naughty" can lead to problems with them craving sweets, cake, crisps etc. But 14 months isn't exactly old enough to suffer from those sorts of cravings!

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Chardonnay73 · 10/11/2022 22:08

Oh chill! Honestly! It’s not great but it’s not the end of the world either. My pfb used to suck on a Maccies chip at that age. He’s 6’2 and a strapping lad now and hasn’t died of salt poisoning! Just balance it up with healthy snacks at home and it will all be fine. If it’s happening every day then maybe have a chat with them?

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FatPatsCat · 10/11/2022 22:14

Chardonnay73 · 10/11/2022 22:08

Oh chill! Honestly! It’s not great but it’s not the end of the world either. My pfb used to suck on a Maccies chip at that age. He’s 6’2 and a strapping lad now and hasn’t died of salt poisoning! Just balance it up with healthy snacks at home and it will all be fine. If it’s happening every day then maybe have a chat with them?

The child is in high school now, I'm sure OP has chilled 😂

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Isahlo · 10/11/2022 22:17

fibernie · 23/02/2007 18:46

Thanks all
Part of the problem is that she's such an independent eater she won't eat the menu designed for her age. I suspect most of the other kids her age are still on their 'tweenie' menu, which is lots of stews and casseroles and sauce based dishes.
However, the more I think about it, the more I think it's shocking that they think is't more acceptable to feed older children crisps and the like.. just because they are older?
She had quorn curry for lunch but refused it. This is fairly common for DD at nursery refuses the main meals but eats the fruit - I guess I must just be an excellent cook !
I probably will offer her crisps as a treat at some point - if I don't she'll just eat them behind my back when she's older! However, like you said bobsyouruncle, I want it to be MY choice!

So I would read this as she refused the proper food, and as a result was given something as an easy win because they didn't think she'd do well going all day hardly eating?!

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MichelleScarn · 10/11/2022 22:19

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wherearebeefandonioncrisps · 10/11/2022 22:21

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Isahlo · 10/11/2022 22:23

MichelleScarn · 10/11/2022 22:19

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fjäl · 10/11/2022 22:26

wherearebeefandonioncrisps · 10/11/2022 22:21

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