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To think it isn't patronising to call an 18 yo adorable??

(29 Posts)
aibumn Tue 17-Jan-17 03:38:21

AIBU?? Surely not?

user1477282676 Tue 17-Jan-17 03:56:40

Context is everything.

TheMysteriousJackelope Tue 17-Jan-17 04:09:08

Except as a descriptor for kittens or very young children I find it patronizing.

mum2Bomg Tue 17-Jan-17 04:20:38

I reserve 'adorable' for puppies and babies.

misshelena Tue 17-Jan-17 04:21:36

No, unless it's meant that way

misshelena Tue 17-Jan-17 04:22:14

I mean YABU

InTheDessert Tue 17-Jan-17 05:28:05

Reverse???
There are very few suitations I can think of where calling a young adult adorable would not be patronising.

Sukitakeitoff Tue 17-Jan-17 05:33:54

I would consider it patronising for an 8yo never mind an 18yo!

NightWanderer Tue 17-Jan-17 05:42:34

It really is patronising.

EmpressOfTheSpartacusOceans Tue 17-Jan-17 05:45:15

Patronising. Acceptable from a very elderly relative but that's about it. What was the context?

Manumission Tue 17-Jan-17 05:45:46

Is it one of things that are different in the States? Like 'cute'? Did a non-Brit say it?

Mammylamb Tue 17-Jan-17 07:49:01

Very patronising

corythatwas Tue 17-Jan-17 07:53:24

Context, as user said above. Do you know them well, what was the situation, how would they feel about it, were you serious, was it in their hearing?

ethelb Tue 17-Jan-17 08:15:12

How old do you have to be for it to not be patronising OP?

GinIsIn Tue 17-Jan-17 08:16:53

Puppies and babies only, in my book.

TheMysteriousJackelope Tue 17-Jan-17 11:51:12

Manumission the only time I have come across it being used in the States was in contexts similar to 'You think Trump will be a great President? Oh, that's adorable', so patronizing there too.

BarbarianMum Tue 17-Jan-17 11:56:33

Babies, baby animals and small flower arrangements/ wedding favours (and even the latter would make me wince).

Manumission Tue 17-Jan-17 12:24:29

Ah. Not great then.

HecateAntaia Tue 17-Jan-17 12:26:48

I think it is patronising, yes.

You've really got to be under 5 or covered in fur to be adorable.

Otherpeoplesteens Tue 17-Jan-17 12:33:44

Depends on the context. If pointedly not patronising, it could also be a little bit creepy, particularly if said with a husky voice and a mischievous glint in one's eye: "Oh, that 18 year old down the street? He's adorable!"

misshelena Tue 17-Jan-17 13:12:36

Manumission -- Yes, I am American. But don't claim to speak for the country. Just that I am slow to take offense. I often hear "adorable" when responding to a teen or young adult showing off a new outfit or makeup trick, etc. It just means "cute" and 100% not meant to offend, in fact the reverse.

EmpressOfTheSpartacusOceans Tue 17-Jan-17 13:30:33

Like the recent threads where an American poster was looking for a 'cute' village then.

In the UK both adorable & cute would be considered offensively patronising except when applied to small children & pets, but it sounds like it's a language thing.

TheMysteriousJackelope Tue 17-Jan-17 15:14:50

I think misshelena has it. It's OK to refer to a thing as adorable - outfit, make-up, bag, but not a person or the thing they are doing. Saying 'That's an adorable outfit is not patronising', 'You're so adorable' is.

LivininaBox Tue 17-Jan-17 15:35:52

Not patronising provided the person saying it is really posh :"oh you are just too adorable"

RaymondinaReddington Tue 17-Jan-17 15:36:38

Really? It is what I would class as a kind descriptor.
E.g. You're sweet, you're a treasure, you're a doll. I can't imagine why it would be patronising but context is everything.

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