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Family don't talk to me anymore

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JanuarySnooze Mon 16-Jan-17 17:44:39

My mum died 4 years ago and about a year later my dad met someone else. They're still together and are very happy. It took a long time for me to accept their relationship but now everything is fine and we all get along.

My mum's family cut all contact with my dad and now I get along with his gf they have stopped talking to me as well.

Should I contact them or just let it go?

HecateAntaia Mon 16-Jan-17 17:49:32

I'd leave them to it.
I understand they are grieving but they cannot expect you to cut your dad out of your life. Which is what would happen if you refused to accept his partner.

I don't imagine your mum would have wanted your family to treat you like this.

Mumzypopz Mon 16-Jan-17 18:17:57

It's their loss, just let it go. They have made their very silly choice, so leave them to it.

I'm not sure what people expect people to do when they do things like this (ie either cut contact or threaten it).
My Fil once said to us "if we don't visit them with our dd more often, don't bother coming at all". She was two weeks old!!

JanuarySnooze Mon 16-Jan-17 20:22:36

No my mum would be disgusted in them to be honest. Its just such a shame that it's got to be my dad and his gf OR them.

PollytheDolly Mon 16-Jan-17 20:27:21

How very childish of them!

Well, that's their problem and sorry they feel that way but what can you do?

JanuarySnooze Mon 16-Jan-17 20:33:47

Not a lot it seems. I feel like asking them why but I don't think I'll ever get a rational explanation as there isn't one.

Sassypants82 Mon 16-Jan-17 20:41:44

Perhaps it's not that he's moved on, as such, but they feel that he was 'over' her enough to move on within one year, while they are still probably struggling with her death. I am in similar shoes to your DM's family but have contact & have never expressed any negative feelings publicly. It stung though, to be honest, although it was a shorter time period than a year before they got together. I have maintained contact & relationships to keep things normal for my sibling's DC & to continue to enjoy my relationship with them. Act, the new partner seems lovely to be fair, which helps.

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