Does anyone else experience this? I would describe my dominant emotion throughout my life as quite fearful. I have this constant sense that I'm somehow in the wrong, that I'm getting everything wrong (including/especially work), and that I'm going to get found out, and when I am it will be awful.
To a large extent, I have learned to live with this feeling as just part of who I am - I hate it, but mostly I feel the fear and do it anyway (I read the book ages ago, it genuinely helped). If you met me you almost certainly wouldn't know I feel like this.
But I have realised recently though that I might be transferring my own feelings to my kids now they are a bit older. Just one example: my DD wants to take up drama lessons. She's been asking for ages and I have only just done it and I think it might be because I am not sure this is where her talents lie(!) and want to protect her from disappointment I guess.
So this is more about me than her isn't it? Has anyone else had this? What did you do? Did counselling help? I feel that maybe I need to get to the bottom of my own fear to prevent myself passing it on, but counselling is so bloody expensive! And I am not sure whether my case is bad enough to deserve/need it/that counselling would really help.
I am quite nervous about posting this very first world and possibly rather niche problem here, but would be really interested in other people's experiences. You're welcome just to tell me to get a grip.
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... to worry that my own fear (especially of failure) is affecting my kids.
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didntthinkofthat · 16/01/2017 12:22
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