So I am getting married at the end of May to my partner of 6 years.
For various reasons I decided to have my hen night early (the beginning of October) and I invited 20 friends to a weekend in Blackpool. Knowing people had different budgets etc I made it clear that people could come for both nights, one night, just the day etc so no one felt pressured to spend more than they could afford.
I was ill for a bit chunk of last year and the hen night fell at the same sort of time as me going back to work.
As the weeks rolled up to my hen night, more and more people were cancelling. Some had out right refused to go to Blackpool, some people never even said yes or no, and then leading up there were loads of cancellations.
Some examples include 'I can't go it's my Dad's birthday' 'I can't go I've not booked a hotel room and I won't find one now'.
Anyway it got to three weeks before and it was me, my bridesmaid and my friend who is giving me away at my wedding. A friend of friend had also invited herself, her three sisters and her mum. As it was going to feel like I was crashing on their family holiday, I cancelled.
Now, I was really hurt. My friends have a bit of a history when it comes to letting me down, but I did not think they would cancel over something so important.
Now it comes to my wedding and I am fairly sure it's going to happen again. Whenever I think about my wedding all I feel is worry that there is going to be no one there for me (I don't have any family due to an abusive childhood) and the hurt and embarrassment I'm going to feel.
AIBU to think they are going to do the same again?
WIBU to make it clear how much they hurt me over the hen night?
Is there anyone who has been through the same sort of thing that has any advice?
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hellejuice91 · 16/01/2017 07:58
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