to decline a gift

[motherofthemall]

My parents have very generously offered to buy me an expensive watch for my 30th birthday. I am delighted and really would like it. However, i know that my husband will be annoyed, he often gets grumpy when i get expensive gifts and calls me spoilt and that i don't need such things etc etc.

[Soubriquet]

Accept the gift and kick your dh out

Why on earth does he moan about that?

Is he jealous?

[coconutpie]

^^^ What Soubriquet said

[iklboo]

He sounds like a whiny toddler.

[MLGs]

What? of course you can accept the gift.

he sounds horrible!

[PidgeyfinderGeneral]

Erm, what? Why would you decline a lovely present from your parents because your DH is a twat? Tell him to get a fucking life and keep the watch.

[Leeds2]

Don't tell him how much it cost.

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

Do his parents not buy him expensive gifts?

Does he expect your parents to do so?

Diddums.

[Crispbutty]

It would be incredibly rude and ungracious to refuse a gift like that, which would be a very sentimental item too, from the two people who have been in your whole life.

He sounds a jealous knob.

[Pumpkintopf]

Is he upset because he can't afford to buy you such expensive gifts himself, therefore resents others doing so?

[GahBuggerit]

hes jealous. get the watch, wouldcbe a lovely keepsake, unlike him

[harderandharder2breathe]

Accept the gift and tell DH to grow the fuck up

[Screenburn]

Wow what a joyless fucknugget your DH is.

Accept the watch - it sounds like a lovely gift from great parents.

[motherofthemall]

Thank you. He doesn't have a relationship with either of his parents. He can afford to buy me such things, but I don't think he would ever choose to. I really want to be excited about the gift but I am dreading the atmosphere it will create. A first world problem, I know.

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

A first world problem, I know.

Not really. Jealous, controlling husbands are an issue the world over.

I'd be getting that watch.

[austenozzy]

Sounds like a miserable, controlling tightwad. Does he lay down rules and restrictions for you on anything else? Clothes, food, friends, social life?

[Catsize]

Lovely gift, accept it.

[PollytheDolly]

What a knob-jockey.

Accept the lovely gift. It's not your fault he's 5 years old mentally.

[LostSight]

He sounds mean. Does he often deliberately spoil things for you?

[thesourceofLoveandLight]

my dh is a bit like this - if i get anything nice he goes on about it and it takes the shine off, tbh.

I think its jealousy. I call him out all the time and he denies it, but the next time I get a present it starts again. You have my sympathy, OP. accept the watch and ignore him.

[EmeraldScorn]

You're allowed a gift from your parents no matter how much it costs and you do not have to feel guilty about it or question it in any way.

Your husband sounds like a self centred man-child but to be fair you sound as if you feed his childishness by even paying attention to his whims - Ignore him, accept the watch and enjoy wearing it.

You don't have to justify why your parents are buying you a birthday gift, don't be a door mat, it's your birthday your parents, and he is blatantly a jealous, insecure moron.

[tinydancer88]

Ignore your husband. Enjoy your gift, and your generous parents.

[RandomMess]

Your DH doesn't sound very pleasant!

[kittybiscuits]

Soubriquet gave perfect advice!

[mumgointhroughtorture]

Accept the gift otherwise your parents miss out buying something for their Daughter (you still are their child) that they want to buy so hes almost controlling them too because it's like you can't accept this to keep him happy. He needs to deal with it .

[GinIsIn]

What others have said - keep the gift, replace the husband!