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About my Sunday dinner guest tonight...

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maddiemookins16mum Sun 15-Jan-17 19:42:05

I'm so peeved I've hidden in the kitchen, washing up.
Have friends round for Sunday dinner (so basically a main meal of sorts).
Me, DP, DD (12), 4 other adults. Two of each couple work with DP. I know one couple very well, get on great.

Other couple, know the male better as he works with DP. His wife I've met about 4 times, got on well, I work in the travel industry, we've spent many an hour talking holidays.

They came round at 4.30pm. Dinner was slow cooked lamb shanks, roast potatoes, carrots, broccoli and green beans.

Wife of 2nd couple (the one I discussed travel with), announced on arrival, "oh by the way, I'm not eating meat in January?"

I was slightly stunned but carried on getting drinks etc. (took DP aside and said "is she not eating the flipping lamb".

Turns out no, so I got an Iceland frozen salmon steak out t'freezer and cooked it with a pouch of Ainsley Harriot veg cous cous and she had our normal veg too. The roast potatoes were cooked with goose fat left over from Christmas.

The worst bit is, our cat (fluffballmookins), is unwell. She's about 15. She smells. I think it's her breath, her teeth are bad but she would need an operation under gas to clean them but she would not survive/cope with an operation.

Four times in the last hour she has said "that cat smells". She is sitting in the armchair and Fluffball is snoring above her head. Three times I've said, "swap seats with me", I'm on the end seat of a three seater sofa (there is also another armchair).

She picked at her dinner, drank 5 glasses of wine (I only had three bottles between 6 adults on a Sunday night), has smoked just outside my kitchen door, and told DD it's too expensive to train to be a vet so don't bother.

AIBU to want her gone now at half seven (usually they leave about 10).
Disclaimer - we plan these nights (all friends apart from one, have tomorrow off and one doesn't drink, he's the driver).

bibbitybobbityyhat Sun 15-Jan-17 19:43:49

What a long post from someone who is hosting a dinner party! Save it for tomorrow.

Ilovecaindingle Sun 15-Jan-17 19:46:46

Maybe give her portion of the lamb to the poor cat who has also had to put up with her vbga (very bad guest attitude)?
Kitchen sounds the place to be imo. ..

pipsqueak25 Sun 15-Jan-17 19:48:57

she sounds a pita but you have the patience of a saint, not eating meat, drinking the booze and moaning about your dear old moggy, she'd definantly be off my christmas card list this year grin

Waffles80 Sun 15-Jan-17 19:49:58

What bibbity?

I can't bear this new MN rush to reply as quickly as possibly with the most unreasonable and snippy response to an OP.


Can you sneak some catnip on to guest'a clothes so your cat clambers all over her? T'would teach her a lesson. Feed cat meaty dinner first.

(Also, next time faced with ludicrous dinner fussiness request you say: "oh, great, more lamb for the rest of us. You'll be good with just the veg then."

Mum2jenny Sun 15-Jan-17 19:50:50

I'd have just served her the lamb and let her go hungry. Surely you'd tell your host if you had suddenly decided not to eat meat!

ColdFeetinWinter Sun 15-Jan-17 19:52:27

grin to catnip

Jojobythesea Sun 15-Jan-17 19:53:22

She's a right nob. Sprinkle cat nip on her. grin

Pestilence13610 Sun 15-Jan-17 19:56:52

YY to the catnip.
Your guests didn't bring wine shock

BillSykesDog Sun 15-Jan-17 19:57:08

She sounds horrible, tell her to piss off home. But next dinner party I would suggest moving smelly cat to a room where you are not eating.

user1484317265 Sun 15-Jan-17 19:59:09

I would have told her to just eat the veg etc.

Didn't the 2 couples both bring wine though?

ImperialBlether Sun 15-Jan-17 19:59:20

They didn't bring wine? You should have assumed she'd gone for the Dry January, and given her water.

maddiemookins16mum Sun 15-Jan-17 20:00:32

To be fair, Mookins does smell. Maybe I'm/we're used to it. I've removed her to a favourite blanket on DD's bed.

maddiemookins16mum Sun 15-Jan-17 20:03:46

Couple 1 came with a bottle. Couple 2 (her!!!) came with a posh pudding from M and S (very nice). We have lots of spare wine and cider here 😳.

HarryPottersMagicWand Sun 15-Jan-17 20:04:52

As someone who is sensitive to smells, a smelly animal would really bother me so I'm not sure you can blame her for that.

As for the rest, the only thing that would piss me off is the no meat thing as she arrived. But didn't you check the menu with your guests first? I would never have anyone over to eat without checking I'm cooking something they will eat first and I'd want to know what I was eating before going to someone's house. The smoking, I'd tell her I was shutting the door because the smoke was coming in the house, no big deal. Telling your DD about the vet thing, meh, I'd just say something like "well its fine DD if that's what you really want to do" (my DD wants to be a vet too) and the wine, not sure why you are counting tbh. Does it all have to equally shared out.

Buttonmushroomex Sun 15-Jan-17 20:05:38

Resort to playground tactics...?

That cat smells..

So do you. Of stale fags.

<<I'm a smoker but I couldn't resist>>

BillSykesDog Sun 15-Jan-17 20:06:53

If you want to get her to go put Moonkins and her blanket right next to the guest. That should get the message across.

PupPupBoogie Sun 15-Jan-17 20:07:11

She sounds hard work!

In terms of the cat, what are you feeding her? It's not her fault.

extrabiotin Sun 15-Jan-17 20:07:15

A guest should just say nothing and be very grateful for the trouble a host has gone to for them and others.

So what if she is not eating meat in January, she could eat the veg and spuds surely without making a song and dance.

I really am convinced that some people just crave attention and will do anything to get it. Terrible behaviour from a guest IMO.

Forget about the cat. You offered to move to accommodate guest.

Jeezus I'd say you are tired now OP, but rest assured you did your best. Some people just will not enjoy anything.

I hope you had six glasses of wine as an anaesthetic here!

Guitargirl Sun 15-Jan-17 20:07:33

Live and learn OP. That'll be the last invitation for her, right? I wouldn't have served anything else. You were nice to offer the salmon. But I would have served those potatoes - it's not as though she's a vegetarian or has an allergy or intolerance or anything. And after they have left have a chat with your DD and tell her to ignore the rude guest.

DodoRevival Sun 15-Jan-17 20:09:20

What's wrong bibbitybobbityyhat? You at dinner party with a smelly cat, drunk and in a petulant mood?

DearMrDilkington Sun 15-Jan-17 20:13:16

You should have kept mookins where she was and suggested you all sing Smelly cat from friends so moo would feel more accecpted.

RandomDent Sun 15-Jan-17 20:14:50

Yeah, PupPupBoogie, she should take her to the vet. grin

NavyandWhite Sun 15-Jan-17 20:16:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Backt0Black Sun 15-Jan-17 20:16:34

Shes an arse. Fussy, rude and a lush. I imagine her diary is full with dinner invites hmm

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