to think i am a rubbish mother

[FluffyAnimalsRule]

Sitting down watching a programme with DH.

DH rushes out of the room saying 'oh dear, child upset'

I hadn't heard a thing

(DCs are 3 and 4)

He turned out to be correct.

Am i a rubbish mother for not hearing them?

[Waterfeature]

No.

[SparklyLeprechaun]

Why would you be a rubbish mother for not hearing them? If you heard them and ignored them then you'd be a rubbish mother.

[IMissGrannyW]

Darlin' if that makes you a rubbish mother, I should be in prison! Done far, far worse.

Hope your DC are ok and that you are too.

[EastMidsMummy]

A rubbish mum because you didn't hear your kids? Er, no.

[bumsexatthebingo]

Is it just this once or regularly? A friend of mine realised she had hearing loss when her partner could hear the kids upstairs but she couldn't. Not sure why you would think it would make you a bad mother though???

[Finola1step]

No. During the evening, I would be the one to hear of the dc are upset. But once we are asleep, it will be DH who wakes in the night. Once I am asleep, I'm really hard to stir.

In fact, I have recently bought a baby monitor for when dh is away overnight. Even though my dc are old enough to come in and wake me, I feel better having the monitor as well.

This does not make me a rubbish mum. It makes me a deep sleeper.

[DeleteOrDecay]

Of course not. There are many reasons why you might not have heard them.

It's not like you were ignoring them on purpose.

[HateSummer]

Don't be silly. You didn't hear them. Why did your dh say you're a rubbish mum for not hearing them?

[FluffyAnimalsRule]

He didn't say I was rubbish. I just hadn't realised how difficult It was to hear them now. (We have recently had some work done to the house and I hadn't realised how difficult it would be to hear them). It's the first time I haven't heard them so I feel a bit guilty