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AIBU to be upset over friends attitude to job news

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lalalandxx Thu 12-Jan-17 20:54:39

I fear I am BU but this has thrown me a little.

A couple of days ago I got a new job at an agency for a rather competitive industry after a lengthy hard interview and vetting process. When I told my friends they were all wonderfully supportive as I have been out of work for a couple of months and really wanted this job. One of my friends (I say friend, they are more a friend of a friend whom I have clashed with a little before) asked straight away what the agency was as he wanted a job there too and started to be quite aggressive and argument when I said he was being a bit grabby as I had only just found out that afternoon I got the job. I left it at that and said I would talk him through it another time as we were on a night out and not the place for the discussion.

Next day I found he had applied and he had been offered a similar position in the same work place and then started gloating that "I wasn't as special as I thought I was" and that he "deserved this more" than me as he had wanted it for longer.

So I guess i'm asking AIBU to be a little miffed over his attitude of it all?

2ducks2ducklings Thu 12-Jan-17 20:56:25

I would have been irritated too! He sounds like a complete douche to me!

JaxingJump Thu 12-Jan-17 20:57:24

What a jerk!

SoleBizzz Thu 12-Jan-17 20:57:52

He deserves a job as much as you do. His attitude stinks though

DJBaggySmalls Thu 12-Jan-17 20:59:42

I wonder if he will last as long as you with that attitude.

RandomDent Thu 12-Jan-17 21:00:22

If you have a job, why couldn't he apply too? You both sound 8.

JaxingJump Thu 12-Jan-17 21:04:19

I think OP is just feeling pissy and her back is up because this guy shat all over her good news.

RC1234 Thu 12-Jan-17 21:04:28

He sounds an idiot. I would be upset if I knew that someone like that was going to be a colleague.

lalalandxx Thu 12-Jan-17 21:08:25

I should add we're both young and starting out in this industry although I have been involved in it for 5 years already. By no means do I not want him to get a job, I am very happy to help him out and even offered to talk him through the interview process.

I just didn't think it was fair to go off at me and act so grabby. My friend has a tendency to turn things onto himself a lot.

I know its pathetic but I just wanted one night to celebrate my achievement.

Enidblyton1 Thu 12-Jan-17 21:08:43

Eh? He applied and found out he had the job all in the space of a few hours??

PovertyJetset Thu 12-Jan-17 21:10:46

What a cock

bonfireheart Thu 12-Jan-17 21:12:46

Why didn't you just tell him what the agency was? He probably got annoyed that you were being so protective for no reason.

MrsDoylesTeabags Thu 12-Jan-17 21:13:36

The next day?

Onemorewonthurt Thu 12-Jan-17 21:14:48

Surely him wanting/getting a similar job doesn't make any difference?

You still got the job?

What an overreaction

Onemorewonthurt Thu 12-Jan-17 21:14:50

Surely him wanting/getting a similar job doesn't make any difference?

You still got the job?

What an overreaction

Bluntness100 Thu 12-Jan-17 21:15:21

How was he being grabby? I don't understand, it reads like he was trying to ask you about it and you didn't wish to explain.

Floggingmolly Thu 12-Jan-17 21:16:37

What did he mean by "grabby"? If there were other positions available you were a bit off not to let him know where to apply...
Awful of him to crow about it, though.

Mouikey Thu 12-Jan-17 21:16:41

^ yes Enid, I didn't get that either (especially after a lengthy interview process...!!??!!

lalalandxx Thu 12-Jan-17 21:16:54

@Enidblyton1 The way the agency works is that you get offered a role when you apply , go into for an interview to see how suitable you are then from there you will get confirmed in that role and offered more work from there.

@RandomDent the work changes weekly so you get confirmed employment within the agency but you are still constantly fighting for weekly roles, so you are never guaranteed work as such.

It is a tricky thing to explain sorry if its not that clear.

Floggingmolly Thu 12-Jan-17 21:18:36

What industry recruits like that??

Bluntness100 Thu 12-Jan-17 21:18:59

Why did you have to go through a lengthy application process and he did it in a day? Or did you simply refuse to talk to him and he'd already applied so you didn't know?

Floggingmolly Thu 12-Jan-17 21:20:29

Why were you "celebrating your achievement" when everyone who applies gets a role?? (mindboggling!)

AmeliaJack Thu 12-Jan-17 21:20:57

Well he doesn't sound very nice.

I'd steer a bit clear at work I think, he sounds likely to talk you down to others.

steff13 Thu 12-Jan-17 21:25:44

It seems like if you had just told him the name of the agency up front, he wouldn't have been so snide when he got the job. Why not just tell him?

dollydaydream114 Thu 12-Jan-17 21:26:04

straight away what the agency was as he wanted a job there too and started to be quite aggressive and argument when I said he was being a bit grabby

So, he asked you where the job was because he's in the same industry, and you accused him of being 'grabby' just for asking that question?!

No wonder he got a stroppy if you were that rude to someone who asked you a perfectly reasonable question.

To be honest you both sound like a pair of childish drama queens.

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